I have a rubric contract that is in one of my Lesbian Conception books that I would have to get checked over by a legal professional. However I know if a child is conceived with sperm through any method other than penetration, legally the donor has no right to the child (although I'm sure it could be contested). Nonethless, yes.
If he's expecting to be dad, and to be a primary carer, then it won't be happening. But I don't think he is.
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I have never had occasion to look into the legalities of donor sperm (either through a clinic or DIY), so my only concern would be that the sperm donor could exercise his rights in relation to the child in the future as a father.
If you can ensure that doesn't happen, then the known donor idea is more appealing to me for the reasons on your pro list, especially being a known figure from an early age.
As a side issue, when are scientists going to come up with a way to cut men out of this whole procreation business, so lesbians can just get on with it? (my partner understands he is a necessary evil for my procreation urges)
01-07-2012 21:12 #14
My friend had a known donor (though I think they still did insemination at the clinic) and its worked very well. Her daughter who is nearly 8 sees her bio Dad at birthdays and Christmas and other important events. He's gay too so he was pleased to create a life but for him happy to not be too involved. He lives in Sydney and she is in Canberra so close but not too close. I think as the girl gets older she may visit him at times.
The biggest issue for my friend is how to stop her daughter being spoiled as she gets so many presents!
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01-07-2012 21:14 #15
I found this, but don't know what law it comes from.
Sperm donors do not have automatic legal parenting status. In 2008 that right was given to the partners of lesbian mothers who conceived using a sperm donor.
01-07-2012 21:32 #16
It's a big decision but I think the known donor is a great idea as long as you all know where you stand in the situation, and it sounds like you do. Good luck
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01-07-2012 22:27 #17
My property manager at work just helped his childhood friend who lives in Brisbane get pregnant , he flew up, had all the tests and she was inseminated in the clinic, she is now 18 weeks pregnant! As a gay man he is thrilled to have a child but they worked out all the legalities beforehand - he wants the child to know he is the father and he will be on the birth certificate but apart from that has no legal rights and is not contributing any money ( that was her request) but will see the baby when she comes down ( her parents live here) and he will go up for birthdays
I think it's great she knows the father ( and all his family)
She has requested to name the child and give it her last name but his last name will be one of the middle names
I think as long as you talk out all the legal stuff and what rights ( if any) he wants to be involved in i say go for it!
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01-07-2012 23:02 #18
We won't have our donor on the birth cert. Parent 1 will be me, Parent 2 will be DP
I think it's about fine tuning EVERYTHING, even the things you don't think will matter. Like birthdays and christmases, none of which I'd have even thought of.
I hope dinner tomorrow shows that he has a similar idea of what it'd mean for us. I did explain our plans a few months ago when he and I had coffee and he says he's been thinking of it since then. So he does know what our intention was, but applying it to oneself is probably different.
01-07-2012 23:33 #19
Oh how exciting RR!
Personally I like the idea of known donor.
I hope all goes smoothly for you all xxx
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01-07-2012 23:55 #20
Sounds really promising! Please keep us updated on how it all goes!
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