I didn't 'rank' higher than my XDP in our relationship. We chose our son's name together, which meant we lost some good ones because the other didn't agree, but it was a mutual decision. Having said that, I think he knew what names were important to me and was happy to let me create a short list.
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02-07-2012 08:59 #22
We were so sure that we were having a boy that we didnt thin of girls names. We knew which girls names we hated so just spent 6 months discussing those we didnt mind until we agreed on a potential and when she was born we said, "yes thats the name!"
Re boys names I will pull rank over DP if we get there as the name he wants is his fathers name but for personal reasons (nothing to do with his dad who is a wonderful man. All stuff from when I was 16/17) I will not have that name as a first name. I would let him have it as a second name but not a first name.
02-07-2012 09:50 #23
I'm so glad that I married a woman who doesn't think so little of the institution of fatherhood that she'd believe that either parent has "rank" to pull.
02-07-2012 10:39 #24
My DP came up with DS name & it was perfect and suits him so well & has very special meaning to DP.
02-07-2012 11:05 #25
There has to be two "Yes" votes for any major decision in our relationship.
DH and I vitoed a number of name options suggested by the other until we had one we both liked. I am sure it'll be the same next time.
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02-07-2012 11:09 #26Senior Member
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Yes women give birth, sorry but that's what happens. The man can't do it! And to use that in an argument to get what you want is poor form IMO.
You made the baby together, choose the name together.
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02-07-2012 11:24 #27
Never pulled rank, but said that if we couldn't agree, I get the ultimate say because the kids are known by their given first name and his surname. I think that's fair.
Three kids in, we have agreed on all their names so far.
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02-07-2012 11:42 #28
No, and I never would. We jointly decided to have children, me obviously carry them!, we jointly decided their names. (this is MY situation)
I am the suggestor for all names though! ha! And DH will claim that he 'chose' the name, really we agree on a name we like from a list of (mainly) my suggestions.
02-07-2012 11:48 #29
We have a list on the fridge. You can add whatever name you like, if the other person completely hates it then they scrub it off. So we have about 6 girls names and about 4 boys names that we both equally like. Now with 5 weeks to go its get close to D day, don't know how we will decide which one to go for. I think the list will come to the hospital and we will decide there!
I would never pull rank on my DF, as I wouldn't like him to do it to me. We both need to agree.
02-07-2012 11:57 #30
I don't like the term "pulled rank", but I did tell FOB that since he picked DS1's name, I got to pick DS2's.
Out of all the names he'd suggested, I didn't mind DS1's name, so that's why I agreed to that one. As soon as he was born, and it became him, I loved it
It started out the same with DS2's name, I suggested it, FOB didn't mind it, so we agreed. Now he's decided he really, really doesn't like it...so I'm not sure if we will use that one. I wouldn't want to hate one of my children's names, and I wouldn't want their dad to, either.
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