if lawyers are appealing the case can you contact them and offer to testify how it has upset your family and how you feel totally betrayed by the fact that you trusted this man at the centre??? might be a better way to go about it rather than vigilante style on the internet (as tempting as it is?)
I'm surprised he has stayed in the area ??? surely others have put two and two together as well?
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28-06-2012 22:00 #11
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28-06-2012 22:28 #12
Except for the letter that I initially received, and that didn't indicate just what the problem was, I could only think there was a possibility that he had done something sexual to children. It wasn't until I read the paper that I found out what he'd done, or the part of it that hasn't been supressed. Then it all sort of fell into place from there, you know, I keep thinking of things he said, things that my 3 year old said, him wanting to take Jae to the toilet, me leaving them alone in the mornings. My god, so many things that have got me thinking and putting it all together. And I realise that he deceived the Centre just as much as everyone else and they are not to blame for him being there, but I'm really angry at them too. The thing is, nobody asked me anything. Nobody informed in person all the parents of the children of his room. They can't know anything except what he was CAUGHT doing and admitted to. (He pled GUILTY). All they did was hush it up as much as possible. If I'd KNOWN from when he was first fired, at least the nature of the activity, I would have been able to offer the bits and pieces of info that I have to assist in building a picture.
I know that my children are young and, thank god, if this creepy rotten ##$%$%**&@, good for nothing, deceiving gutter scum (sorry) DID touch my children inappropriately, they won't remember (at least I hope not). But, OH GOD, the thought of that. And I remember this phone call I got from the Centre last year where they said something about my son - this is horrible - they said that his bottom was red and bleeding (but not with nappy rash), and they didn't know why. I told them his bottom was fine that morning - could he have eaten something that hurt him when he pooed it out? And we just left it at that. Then my 3 year old telling me that Mr T (I'll call him that) hurt his wee. I had no idea what he was talking about and just kind of fobbed it off as something that accidentally happened or didn't happen cos you know how 3 year old can just talk blah, blah stuff. NOW how do I feel? I feel like throwing up. I feel like I GAVE my children to a monster. I may as well have tied a sign around them saying "Hey Pedo, come and get me". I made it so easy for him. I feel like killing him (don't worry, I won't) but I FEEL like it. This is why it's painful. Tying all those little things together. Him - so friendly and nice - I trusted him. I TRUSTED HIM. I just thought he was one of those guys who was just a natural with kids.
And my husband - I can't tell him these things. If he knew what I knew - I would be scared for this guys life. Or at least his teeth. I know James would go after him. So I have to keep it all to myself and think and think and think.
So this is what's making me crazy. So please keep talking to me about it. I just need to sort it out inside.
28-06-2012 22:30 #13
I am so sorry for what you're going through! There are so many paedophile running free in our society because the law system can be ridiculously stupid! I read your story, another hubber's story that her ex abused her daughter and they may not do anything because the girl doesn't remember dates (2 years ago), the 8 year old girl that was raped and killed in public toilet in Perth by a paedo that should have been in jail for a previous similar crime. Things must change, they must put children's safety above all.
I don't know what I would do in your situation but I'd definitely do something. Maybe word of mouth going around so at least people in the area & other parents know that is him, anonymous letter to key local and national media providing lead for their further investigation...
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28-06-2012 22:32 #14
You are all making good points. I wonder if there would be a way to make a statement. Maybe I should call the police and ask to speak with someone?
28-06-2012 22:40 #15
Definitely speak to the police and tell them everything you have posted here. It may be just what they need to reopen his case. I'm so sorry you are going through this.
28-06-2012 22:40 #16
I am so sorry
28-06-2012 22:47 #17Senior Member
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I'm about to start crying over your last post. Im so sorry, for anything that did happen or that could have potentially happened.
I would go speak to the centre and request counseling or some action for those people who have realised what was going on via the newspaper.
I would also speak to a lawyer or the cops about potentially furthering the charges in light of your post above. I would even enquire about a law suit against the individual if at all possible.
I would seek counselling in the meantime for yourself.
And lastly, I would sh1tbomb his house as just the START of what would be coming to him.
I'm so sorry. No words can express how sad I am for you and your family, and all the other kids involved too.
28-06-2012 22:49 #18
I am so sorry and am passing on my biggest hugs (not that that's a lot of help).
28-06-2012 22:50 #19
Im so so sorry
Even if children won't remember it can still effect them. Perhaps a dr or social worker can help you?
I think the police need to know the details and your dh too.
(big hugs to you and your family)
28-06-2012 22:51 #20Senior Member
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Does anyone know whether calling talkback radio, or A Current Affair could be ok? Or if u did it anonymously, would he get busted?
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