My XH is refusing to give me photos of the kids since they were born and while in utero
I'm devastated. He keeps saying he'll do it, I even gave him a USB stick to transfer them from his desktop computer and he made up some excuse about the computer not recognising the USB - IT WAS BRAND NEW IN ITS PACKET when I handed it to him.
I asked back in January when I first left the house if I could come and pick up my dog and cat to which he replied 'they're fine where they are'. They're MY pets and he wouldn't let me have them!!
I have a court order that states that he is to give me whatever I want from the house but he won't do it and I've just found out that in order to enforce it, I have to take it back to court which is going to cost me more blardy money that I don't have!!
I hate this man. I truly hate him for what he's put me through over the time we were together and since I got the guts to leave him. He's just made my life hell over and over and over again. The only good thing to come from him are my gorgeous boys but I hate that they see me crying and getting upset over stuff their dad does and then I have to cover for him!!!
Who does that? Who the hell keeps someone's pets out of spite? And BABY photos FFS!!! It's not like I'm asking him to give them to me and he won't have them anymore, I'm asking for a COPY of them!!!!
I'm so over it all. I feel like I have no back up, no leg to stand on and yet again, even though I got the courage to leave him he's still walking all over me and I'm powerless to stop it.
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28-06-2012 13:46 #1
No baby photos :-(
28-06-2012 13:51 #2
Can you go while he is at work and just take the things (and pets) you need? Or can your dad/brother/ cousin etc go with you?
You've done the right thing in leaving from what you've said. What a mean man.
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28-06-2012 14:02 #3
No he's changed the locks and I've just found out last night that the dog is at the next door neighbours.
28-06-2012 14:07 #4
Who's name are the pets registered/microchipped in ?
If they're in your name couldn't you call the police and have him charged with theft ?
What a meanie
Hugs to you op xx
28-06-2012 14:11 #5
They're in mine. But he has the paperwork for them in the filing cabinet inside the house.
He keeps lying to me too and changing his story from one sentence to the next. I called him in it last night and he just said 'you're not listening to me' and walked away.
He always walks away and then does the most mean, spiteful things in the most passive aggressive way possible.
2012 was meant to be a great year, leaving him and taking control of our lives but he's managed to still make it pure hell.
I hope one day the kids are old enough to see him for what he is
28-06-2012 14:14 #6
They will don't worry.
Does it matter if he has the paper work ? They're in your name, they're your pets.
Have you sought legal advice ? Would you be eligible for legal aid ?
28-06-2012 14:20 #7
Report your pets as stolen, and tell them you know where they are and the person is refusing to give them back. Getting their microchip checked and u showing id proves they are yours.
28-06-2012 14:22 #8Senior Member
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I'd ask the police if they can go with you to collect your things. I know somebody who did this and the police were more than happy to help.
28-06-2012 14:23 #9
He sounds horrible.
I just want to say well done for having the courage to get you and your boys away from him. It sounds like he is just withholding things to be vindictive. If you have a court order, wouldn't he have to give u what you want, like if u went over with a police officer to supervise??
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