Remember it is your birth, your body, your baby. You absolutely have the right to refuse/request anything you like.
You dont know who will be on shift when you birth, so you dont know their personal ideals or preferences, but just make sure DP/your support person knows your birth plan inside out and can advocate your wishes, say your in pain and dont have the word power to refuse an internal or syntocin jab they are coming at you with!
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26-06-2012 20:15 #11
26-06-2012 20:19 #12Guest Guest
I wrote a birth plan and I did include incase of c/s and after baby care (incase something happened and I couldn't be with baby)
What can you be flexible on? I think it all seems ok as long as everything is running smoothly and there are no complications I don't see why they would say no. I found I had to work hard to not get monitoring, and once I said no they were ok with that.
I took in my ipod with my meditations, I also took in my lamp and had the lights shut for something soothing to look at. My doula brought in some music aswell and she massaged me. And I had my tens machine on. Afterwards in my room I brought my own pillows, my feeding pillow, and my blanket which all had my smell. I don't know if it did anything but I wanted the baby to feel comfortable on the bed with me and then have the same smell when we came home.
26-06-2012 21:18 #13Senior Member
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I had an amazing natural birth in a public hospital. I had never met the midwives prior to that day but they were very respectful of my choices even though they weren't the norm. I had preeclampsia so they wanted continuous monitoring but were ok with me refusing. I also refused IV antibiotics which were recommended as I was strep b positive (would have had them if I my waters had broken early or had other risk factors). I caught bub myself and put her straight on my belly for the breast crawl. The midwife had never seen a natural third stage or the breast crawl and was actually really delighted and supportive. Good luck, OP. there's no reason you can't have the birth you want in hospital but it's probably worth making sure your partner or a doula are well versed in your wishes and there to advocate for you
26-06-2012 21:29 #14
You have to be strong, have your choices clearly expressed, have your support person clear on your choices and be able to stand up to staff as to why your choices are appropriate. I had a doctor make me explain my reason for refusing syntocin. He wasn't happy with my choice, but couldn't clinically argue with my reason for refusing further medical intervention at that point.
26-06-2012 21:34 #15
I brought up all my requests and concerns at every appointment so I heard several MWs opinions so I knew what I was up against.
I placated them a lot too. lots of "oh okay thanks.... oh yeah that's okay"- while thinking " pfft screw that"
I wrote a very specific birth plan. Like - if X happens I want *this*. incl if I had an emergency csection. etc
most I just kept talking about my concerns and requirements. Even if they weren't always respected I felt like I was well rehearsed when it came to it.
The only thing was the MW got in my face repeatedly about breaking my waters I did consent just to make her stop talking to me. She blahblahblahblahed policies and "let" and whatever crap at me and I was so exhausted by the sound of her voice I let her do it to shut her up...
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