I can't believe the paranoia rampant in this thread! "Monsters lurking in public toilets"?! I think it's a huge problem of modern society that people are living in fear like that.
When my son is able to look after his own toileting and is comfortable/asks to go into the men's toilet, he'll be allowed to! I presume that's about 6-7 or so.
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26-06-2012 19:39 #61
26-06-2012 19:55 #62
I would prefer to have my kid safe and a bit embarrassed about going to the toilet with me then being approached/assaulted/traumatised because of some weirdo in the toilet.
Standing outside the men's toilet doesn't ensure they are safe, how do you know someone isn't already in the toilet waiting?
26-06-2012 19:56 #63
I wouldn't allow my sons or daughter to go into a public toilet unsupervised before the age of 11/12.
My DS1 had a school friend assaulted in a public toilet when he was 8. It's not as uncommon as some people may think.
26-06-2012 19:57 #64I can't believe the paranoia rampant in this thread! "Monsters lurking in public toilets"?! I think it's a huge problem of modern society that people are living in fear like that.
26-06-2012 19:57 #65Senior Member
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I'm pretty sure someone posted something a little while ago about a girl whose father sent her into the toilets and waited outside for her and there was someone waiting in there.
Correct me if I'm wrong but I think she may have actually been killed?
Not worth the risk.
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26-06-2012 20:03 #66
26-06-2012 20:04 #67
I come from a family of Police Officers (brother, 2 x cousins, uncle and grandfather - I would have been one too, but had to leave for medical reasons), and it is one thing that we emphasize with ALL the kids in our family - boys and girls. NEVER go to a public toilet on your own. Even if they are high school age we tell them to go with a friend. It is incredibly scary the amount of assaults that occur in public restrooms. Even the number of children that are approached in restrooms is high. It's just not worth the risk.
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26-06-2012 20:08 #68
I'm not denying that it HAPPENS. Of course tragic things happen all the time. It's just I believe the risk is waaaaaaay less than what you guys do, obviously. I'm not going to stop my son riding his bike/walking on footpaths/swimming/going for baths/climbing trees/being a passenger in a car etc etc because of some minuscule risk of something bad happening.
I believe strongly in building resilience in my children, allowing them to be independent when they want to be, allowing calculated risks i.e. not wrapping them in cotton wool, and not being a helicopter parent. And as part of that philosophy, I won't be holding their hands in public loos until they are in high school.
And if anyone actually HAS "statistics" on this I'd be interested to hear them!
26-06-2012 20:13 #69Senior Member
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26-06-2012 20:14 #70
it's the risk/cost/benefit.
bike riding, climbing trees, getting dirty = high benefit, low cost, low risk. they might fall and break their arms but we can deal with that.
going to the toilet alone. easily dealt with. low risk. huge consequences. odds are my child will not get raped. and yes higher risk they'll be assaulted by a trusted family member or friend. but it costs me nothing to take him with me.
your analysis may be different and that's okay too.
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