I've been told its all about routine, and that the first 6 months is the hardest! But after that it's pretty smooth sailing most of the time!
You only get give what you can cope with, and if you get stuck don't be scared to ask for a break or some help!
I'm due in December, and my youngest will be 12 months old and we also have a 8 year old. So I have asked the same question many many times. I'm sure you'll be fine
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26-06-2012 06:05 #12bub hub newby
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I have a bigger gap between mine, so don't have any advice as such but the adjustment is hard at any age. My older was similarly dependent on me even though he was older. It's amazing how resilient we are and what we can cope with when we have to. I imagine you will do beautifully once you get there and all the best!
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26-06-2012 06:15 #13Senior Member
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I have a 20 month old boy and nearly 2 week old baby girl. I am also a single mum. I was really quite worried about how i'd cope, but I have honestly found tge transition from 1 to 2 easier then having my first. It hasnt been nearly as challenging as I expected ir what people had me believe it would be.
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26-06-2012 06:22 #14
I have 11 months between my two dd's and all I can say is be flexible! :-)
26-06-2012 06:36 #15
I have a 2 under the age of 20mths and I'm pregnant with number 3 due in January.
So I will have 3 under the age of 2 n a half years.
DH works away a week at a time and when he is home we have his 4 yr old daughter. DH really doesn't help out much at all he will do the occasional get them dressed after a bath but that is really it..
My 2 have been sick for seems like 2 mths straight, chest infections viral infections & asthma.😷Then add into that mix my MOrning sickness and then the flu. 😒
I recently started to notice I was crying because my baby was crying. 😓Then I'd just cry coz I was sick of vomit and cleaning sheets and carpet everyday..So u would say I was starting to get depressed. I spoke with DH about my feelings and we are now trialling an Aupair. 😄
Yay thank god HELP
She starts tomorrow so we will see if my depression starts to ease up otherwise I'm off to the DR
26-06-2012 06:49 #16
I have a 22mth gap (DD1 is 22mths and DD2 is 2wks old) and so far its been fairly easy. The newbie lives in the ergo and or the capsule during the day. I get up half an hour earlier than DD1 to shower for the day. As soon as DD2 goes for her first nap I prepare dinner (if I dont want to use a cooked meal from the deep freeze), organize lunch, pack morning tea/nappy bags into the car. Once she wakes up and feeds we head outdoors to the park/library/kindergym etc. This allows DD1 to continue her life.
I still have DD1 in daycare 2 days a week whilst on mat leave so these are the days I do batch cooking, big cleans on one day and fix all appts/social stuff on the other.
I also park myself on the couch at 3.30pm and cluster feed DD2 whilst doing afternoon tea/puzzles/drawings/blocks with DD1. This way by the time bedtime for her comes around at 7ish DD2 sleeps for 4-5hrs. The most important thing is that you get a good bedtime routine happening. DH puts DD1 down for bed and I pass out as soon as DD2 does. That way I get at least a few hours uninterrupted sleep. DD1 usually sleeps thru so DH gets up to her and resettles/comforts DD2 till 11pm unless she needs a feed
I dont use any form of crying to 'manage' babies so yesterday DD1 didnt want to nap so I just popped her on my bed next to me and lay down next to her... then DD2 wanted a feed so popped her on the other side.... We all slept for 3hrs! So you might need to consider co-sleeping a way of keeping your babies happy.
But I have an awesome family and my mum/aunt and cousins regularly visit to lend a hand or just for a conversation.
26-06-2012 06:52 #17-
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I had a 20month gap between my two boys, I found the hardest part of the day was breastfeeding, DS1 had not long before weaned and when I was feeding his brother he would constantly climb on me, demand my attention, chuck tantrums etc. I found having a little play station set up really helped, also trying to feed when it was his nap time or meal time would keep him occupied long enough to feed and settle DS2.
Apart from that I found the transition pretty easy, his brother adored him which was one thing I worried up. Just try and encourage bonding time between them. We used to let DS2 hold his brother on the couch (with our help) and play with him when he was having tummy time. I didn't find their age gap too much of a challange, and they are best of friends now! Goodluck
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