Another question, I may be way off the mark, but have you considered he may have autism? The communication issues, skill building with reading and your nephews engineering skills fit the loose profile of Aspergers.
He sounds like a fascinating boy, I'm glad he's being intellectually stimulated at school. I was labelled as gifted while in school and I had similar social issues and was very naughty as a result of boredom and frustration, I wish I had the opportunities you've secured for your son.
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25-06-2012 23:05 #11
26-06-2012 09:36 #12Senior Member
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The school will do testing over the years (both public and private) and be able to tell you reading ages. You can also get them assessed by educational pyschologists and they can prepare reports to help you know the best way to support them.
They run similar tests that they do for autism and learning difficulties and often they have many similar characterisics. Often, gifted children are on the Autism spectrum.
Helping a gifted child survive through the lower years of primary is hard and often heart breaking. They don't always do well socially and often misbehave due to boredom. It is a balance between just letting the school do their thing and being involved enough to monitor things. Also remember, that every parent thinks their kid is super special and there will often be a lot of resistance from schools at labelling them and extending them. IF they seem happy and content, just let them go. Do extra stuff at home.
Working on social skills is essential...as i said early, identify their areas of weakness and develop them. For my son, physically he struggles so we got him involved in Karate from a young age...helped loads physically, taught him perseverance at a task he did not find easy, a new social environment too. I am working hard to ensure he does not just "disappear into himself".
We are presently on the wait list for the Krongold Centre in Melbourne, for a more thorough assessment. He does have many asperger type traits as well as clear academic gifts. I often wish he was a more average child...his life would be so much easier and I think he would be happier and have more friends...and I would be less worried about him and get less agro from other parents and from school.
I avoid talking about him academically for fear of being labelled by other parents as bragging. I have had nasty comments from parents who did in class reading with him from Prep onwards (he was level 18 at beginning of prep) to the point where I was almost in tears. I always divert the conversation to someone else's kids talents if i am asked. I am hoping the new school he is going to next year will be better...they even have a support group for parents of gifted kids and recognise how hard it is.
26-06-2012 18:41 #13
26-06-2012 18:55 #14
I've had issues with trying to communicate to my ds's teachers/potential schools that he is gifted. He's quiet socially so that really doesn't help promote his skills. He went into Kinder (in an Early Learning Centre of a Private School cause we felt he needed extra stimulation) young (just 4) and for that year he struggled socially. 'I can't do it' or 'I don't know' were words frequently out of his mouth - eg. 'where is your right hand?' was 'I don't know' ... but he's known since he was 2! It was hard for the teachers to understand he could read & do complex maths. This year, in his 2nd year of kinder he's no longer saying 'I don't know'/etc and he's fitting in socially with the other kids and letting his skills slowly be seen.
He's always going to be needing extra challenges academically, but socially he needed to do a little more growing up before starting school. He will go to a private school from Prep as we think that this little quiet achiever would be totally lost in the public system. We looked at a number of private schools and ended up with only 1 option that we were happy with. One school principal said that children shouldn't read before starting school (trying to stop my ds from reading is like trying to stop a run away train) and another school left gifted programs up to the individual classroom teacher, which in our minds was a bit too hit & miss. The school we chose has a teacher (part time) who makes plans for the gifted kids and will organise acceleration in subjects (but not year levels as a whole) as needed. We're happy with that.
We're also waiting on an appointment at the Krongold Centre to get him assessed formally as I think it will help his Prep teacher understand him. He still has social issues that will persist, such as an exaggerated sense of right & wrong, but with help that can be harnessed for good .
26-06-2012 22:11 #15
Yeah it was a shock him going to novels quick but he's always been the type that if he's interested in something he takes it in very quickly.
Now that you mention it my sister said my nephew has aspergers but she said although through school he was a loner as we called it he's now 20 and in the Last 2 years he's always out wit friends as he has friends he can talk to now if you know what I mean. So I'm happy him doin his own thing. He'll get there.
As for the parents saying things cos your son was great at reading Thats wrong. I always tell people about Craig and what he can do cos it's great and I'm so proud and no one should make you feel any less. If they had said somethin to me I would of thought how rude and told them its great my son is so advanced. How dare they critisize cos they are jealous! Sorry that got me rather angry. I have taught my son that his talents is great and to never hide it especially cos other kids can be terrible but to hear parents doing it! Craig's school is great and his teaches is very interested in the gifted which does help though. Be proud Thats all I can say.
26-06-2012 22:22 #16
I also agree with above. It might not be aspergers but just that he can't communicate well not can't but he can't talk to the other kids how he would wit us. He talks to my partner about animals and everything about them cos he likes that too but some stuff if he said to kids at school they wouldn't know what he was on about and like my nephew that frustrate him. I'm not into animals and if I don't know what he's talkin about he even gets quite frustrated wit me lol so its more frustrating for him. I have taught him though not to brag and critisize others as he used to a lot but more to help others. But now he tells me he gives a few kids answers just cos they ask so we've had to explain that instead of giving answers he needs to explain the questions and let them get the answers. It's good though that his teacher gets him to teach anothe child to read as it teaches him to help children as some just need more attention then others to do well
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