Yep I would in a heart beat, my dad is under palliative care ATM and we have offered to do a dual occupancy home with both mum and dad.
I would happily help out financially with the inlaws however due to some strains in the relationship that are in the past but can easily present them self again in the future I would be very reluctant to share a property with them.
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24-06-2012 13:29 #71
24-06-2012 13:50 #72
Definitely within a heart beat I would help my mother or in-laws (never my father though, he can rot in peices lol).
24-06-2012 14:03 #73Senior Member
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"love your neighbour as yourself" - this also applies to any family member. So yes we would. No matter how difficult it would be cause its the right thing to do
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24-06-2012 14:08 #74
yes we help now with mil where ever possible. we would do anything for our parents
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24-06-2012 14:14 #75
win win situation.
My dad I'd help emotionally and with errands but he is well off financially. My inlaws are also well off financially but would look after them if they needed/wanted us to due to health reasons.
Already help out looking after my grandparents - I cook for them (my brother pays for the ingredients and I donate time/effort).
I agree with the previous poster about having a village - you cant want a village to support you and not agree to give back to it as well.
24-06-2012 15:22 #76
I spent 2 years caring for my mum. Never again! She is rude, selfish and mean. She can stay for a few days - week or 2 at the most, but I'll never live with her again. I also wouldn't give her money.
I'd think about it for my father and inlaws. Although my mil is a clean freak and even dp said he couldn't live with her again.
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24-06-2012 17:18 #78
24-06-2012 17:39 #79
it would depend really on how desperate the situation was.I feel pretty strongly against the idea with my inlaws because my mil never worked a day in her life and my fil chose to retire 20 years ago, whereas both my parents still work full time. I would be much less I inclined to help someone who hasn't made the effort. plus they annoy me.
BUT bottom line is there's no one in our immediate family we would leave homeless while we have a roof over our heads. so if it came to it we would have either parents or siblings live with us but I wouldn't be thrilled about it.
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07-07-2012 23:52 #80Junior Member
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I think it has a lot to do with how you are brought up. My parents stuck their parents into nursing homes as soon as they became a little frail. I think they did this because it was at no cost to them and causes the most inconvenience
Didn't stop them from criticising the staff, though.
I wouldn't look after my parents as they are very selfish and have been all through my life.
I would feel pressured to take them as my partner would insist.
I think the preservation thing would kick in though a they would not add anything to the family (ie. would not feel obliged to pay any bills or look share childcare or household duties/finances when living here and this is from experience).
On the flipside, as soon as we were working, we were expected to pay 80% of our income to the parental purse as soon as we were working.
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