What sort of things are acceptable as non-agency payments? My ex owes a fair bit and is reluctatnt to pay money, however he has rceently said that if I told him what is needed for DS he will buy it as part of child support and then report this to them.
I am happy doing this, but what can and can't I get him to geT?
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20-06-2012 08:57 #1
Child Support Agency Q
20-06-2012 09:01 #2
Anything I guess, he'll have to provide receipts etc and they'll contact you to make sure you agree to it being counted as child support.
An old friend of mine had her ex pay her rent directly to the real estate each week. Maybe he could pay some bills etc?
Or does he want to buy stuff specifically for DS? What does DS need?
20-06-2012 09:14 #3
Anything really. They will call you and verify, unless you have private collect.
My ex doesn't pay anything because he claims he can't afford to but then tells me about his $3000 snake. He is paying for our DDs martial arts registration and he also bought her the outfit. I am hoping he will also pay for her next term fees (which would all add up to more than what he is meant to pay through CSA).
So I guess what ever you can reach and agreement on!
20-06-2012 09:24 #4
School fees, uniforms, clothing, shoes, food, nappies, rent, electricity, fuel, car repairs, HEAPS of stuff as long as its in direct benifit to DS
20-06-2012 09:52 #5Junior Member
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Be careful with private arrangements. My ex used them to get out of providing for our two daughters.
Now I'm not saying your ex or anybody else for that matter is this sneaky, this is just my experience.
We agreed upon a certain amount, which was far less than the agency had deemed was affodable for him. He'd made threats if I didn't agree, (I wont go into details as it's a long and complicated story that I'm pretty much over even thinking about)
So to keep the peace, the arrangement was that he would pay x amount on bills.
The agency was told he was going to pay that amount.
That would of been fine if he'd actually paid but he never did. So I asked him if he would help out with some cash, he agreed and then never did.
So, I asked if he would buy things for the kids and he agreed and never did.
Meanwhile I was stuck with all the expenses for the kids, including their expenses when staying with him as he would almost always say he couldn't afford it.
Then I realised my family tax benefit was being deducted for the amount of child support I was supposed to be receiving. I rang them and explained that he wasn't paying and they said there was nothing they could do about that as it was a private arrangement.
He didn't have to prove whether he was paying or not. By agreeing to a private arrangement I had agreed that it was my responsibility to make sure he provided for his kids. I'll never be compensated for the six months that I hadn't realised this. They wont collect the child support that he still owes for that time neither will I get back the money that was deducted from my entitlements.
He still dodges them by moving around and being a sub contractor and never doing tax but at least the debt is growing.
So is his tax debt (the fool)!
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