My two year old gets threatened with his cot but I don't put him in it because makes him hysterical, actually I don't leave him at all as he gets upset about that fact and forgets why he is in time out/[choose your own phrase]. I stay with him until he agrees to talk about his behaviour (normally bothering or hitting his big sister) and is prepared to say a nice sorry/cuddle with her.
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18-06-2012 14:51 #11Senior Member
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18-06-2012 15:23 #12
Same with walking and holding my hand, we are teaching him that he has to hold onto his pram when we are out or hold my hand when crossing roads or shopping centre car parks, we are really overboard with the praise as 98% of the time he does really well but once or twice he had started to wander off and I explained to him he has to go back in the pram now as he let go of mummy's hand and it's not safe , he now automatically grabs my hand when we start to walk near the car park entrance
18-06-2012 15:24 #13
BTW I have a 2yr old who is similar.
Hard work and my patience is thin most days lately!!
We do to timeout, remove toys. I try not to smack as my DS is physical with other kids so I am trying to teach him that it is wrong, but I have to admit that I have given the occasional smack on the hand when he just won't respond to timeout etc.
Ps: I love u for suggesting the playpen, I have used it twice already this avo!
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18-06-2012 15:31 #14
time out and removal of privledges for Mr4. Diversion for Miss E, who is 1.
18-06-2012 15:48 #15Senior Member
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DS is 6 yo now so well past 'naughty corner' stage.
I'm able to reason with him now. He loses privilidges. Example, we used to go to Subway every Thursday night after school. One night he was massively playing up so I gave him a warning. He did it the next Thursday so I walked out and explained to him he keeps misbehaving in public so there is no more Subway on Thurs nights.
One thing I've never been afraid of is letting him know how his behaviour makes me feel. If he's made me sad, I tell him. If he's said something mean to a child at school I ask him how it would make him feel if someone did it to him.
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18-06-2012 15:57 #16
I usually use positive reinforcement (like a star chart for being good, getting dressed, etc; and he gets a certain amount of pocket money at the end of the week depending on how many stars he earnt), I find this usually deters bad behaviour. When he got a detention at school for biting he lost all of his stars for being good that week, now just the threat of removing stars usually works.
If he is acting up, I talk to him about his behaviour or sometimes try to distract him, depending on what it is, if he continues he loses all TV/DS/xbox priviledges for a day (major thing in this household lol). If he does something extremely bad it is instant loss of priviledges, but that rarely happens.
I used to smack when he was younger, as sadly it was the only thing that worked. He was very defiant, and a simple no didn't work, nor did time out or any other form of discipline. It was a last resort. But I don't smack anymore, haven't for a long time and don't intend to either.
18-06-2012 16:27 #17
I dont really have a discipline system, no star charts, no naughty corner.
My first line of attact is to talk to DD, explain why her behaviour isnt acceptable, etc. Even as a 2yo, very basic things such as 'No. Dont touch that, that will hurt you' or 'No. Dont tantrum in the shops/park or we go home' etc. I find the biggest thing is to make good with a threat. No good saying 'eat all your dinner or no dessert,' then letting them have dessert after one mouthful of dinner, IYKWIM. That doesnt teach them that you mean what you say. Or another example, if we are at the park and she starts throwing a tantrum because other kids wont play the game she wants to etc, she gets a warning, to the effect of 'dont start sooking, you dont always have to play your game, try their game, if you dont behave we go home' and if the tantrums continue i pack her up, no fuss, no other 'punishment'and just take her home. She screams the whole way home but i say to her 'i told you to play nice and stop with the tantrum, and if you didnt we would go home. You didnt behave so we are going home.' she doesnt like it one little bit but she does understand and does know that next time there will be consequences if she doesnt listen to me.
Wow that was a ramble, hope it helps!
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18-06-2012 16:35 #18
I'd like to hear from those that have more than 2 children?
Eta I started a thread in the Parents of large families section here http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/f...d.php?t=462105
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19-06-2012 01:22 #20
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