The thing is, c/s mummies can be just as competitive. I've read and heard lots of snide comments like oh my DH is sooo glad I had a c/s bc sex is so much better than with with a woman who has had a vb (or words to that effect). Another I see regularly is... I didn't feel the need to be a martyr, i had a c/s - meaning those that birth naturally are martyrs.
Her writings seem to only focus on vb mothers and for me I saw a clear agenda in her piece.... to have a go at natural birthing mothers for being high maintenance, demanding PITA's that think they are better than c/s mummies. yes those women exist, but like I said, so do the PA c/s mums....
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18-06-2012 13:40 #171
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18-06-2012 13:40 #172
I think it becomes smug and competitive when women start saying things like "homebirthers know more about birthing than hospital midwives" and "I've had two homebirths and I don't know anyone who has had such an experience in hospital".
Remember, people write about their experiences on forums for a couple of reasons. Firstly if they had a bad experience (and statistically that will be mostly hospital births as most births are in hospital), and secondly if they are passionate about birthing. These are often home or freebirthers. The bog standard hospital birth that went fine, with or without pain relief, healthy baby at the end, are rarely written about.
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18-06-2012 13:46 #176Guest Guest
I'll be honest, I had an epidural with my first and em c/s. I never ever had anyone say a bad thing about how I gave birth or for having an epidural. Infact it was expected because almost all my friends had c/s aswell. Not even on bubhub had I ever felt judged or looked down on.
When I started telling people I was having a drug free vbac, well that was a different story, I was judged, looked down on, I was told constantly what I was doing was dangerous by people who had no idea about vbacs. And when I had the baby no one wanted to know the details, I wasn't allowed to talk about it because then that would be bragging. They had no problems hearing about my c/s and how bad that was, but didn't want to hear about my vbac and how good that was.
People judge regardless, and its not just people who have drug free births feeling sorry for women who don't or thinking they should have the same experience. She judged and contradicted herself, she judged women who freebirth and homebirth and waterbirth and write birth plans and who wear their birth like a badge of honour. She's just as bad as the women she's talking about.
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18-06-2012 13:50 #177Senior Member
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I think the reason I don't mind the references to natural birthers in this article is because I have seen her also write about women who have elective c/s to avoid their lady parts being ruined.
I'm pretty sure she has also had at least two natural births?
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