Yes, he does have a point, but the reality is that sometimes as mothers it is very hard to appreciate if it is out of our control, naturally we feel helpless, and when it is our children it can be very upsetting... Glad it was a fairly positive outcome.
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17-06-2012 18:22 #31
17-06-2012 18:22 #32
I'm really glad to read that it worked out ok!
As far as not trusting your dh judgement, I honestly don't think that's what is going on here. i think you are in an incredibly difficult position being so far away. your dh is able to make a decision based on so much more sensory input (what the babysitter looks like,how she talks, how she interacts with your child, etc) than what you have. It's the fear of the unknown and unseen. i think you have every right to be anxious
17-06-2012 18:27 #33Senior Member
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I can understand you DH being a little hurt BUT I think your instincts were right. I also suspect (although of course I could be very wrong) that he would not have been so concerned and receptive unless you had made a big deal out of it.
17-06-2012 18:30 #34
Yes he has a good point but so do you hun!! glad it worked out and is over!!
17-06-2012 18:45 #35
I know my dh is not the type to think of the worst case scenario, of course he loves the kids, wants them to be happy and safe, but he doesnt think the way i do, and that makes me uneasy.
So i can totally see both sides of it, but im still with you, totally withing regular mum rights to be worried when they are so far away.
I saw this documentary which stated that pessimists live longer than optimists, hahaha dh is always pointing out i always think of the worst case scenario, and i say "and that my friend is why i will out live you all!!!"
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17-06-2012 19:00 #36
Great to know that everything went well!
Diamond.. so what you are saying is that everyone is going to DIE and I am going to be ALONE (that's the real pessimistic response... your cheerful response to outliving everyone shows how uncommitted to the cause you really are)
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im glad it worked out ok. id also be hesitant to leave my kids with a stranger, i dont even like having extended family babysit if i dont know them well.
17-06-2012 19:56 #38
I personally wouldn't mind because my child would be asleep by 9pm.
17-06-2012 19:58 #39
That's great that everything went well. I understand what your DH is saying but he has the luxury of being there with her, you don't. You are on the other side of the world and whilst no doubt you trust him there is always that feeling of loss of control of your children (even temporary and to their dad) that I think is natural response for a parent.
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