I have never had a m/c but my very close friend has not that long ago. For people who have had a m/c what words of comfort can I say to her? After reading all these comments I'm scared to say anything with hurting her feelings.
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17-06-2012 06:50 #31Senior Member
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17-06-2012 08:07 #33
You're a good friend for wanting to help her .
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18-06-2012 12:36 #34
Not said to me but about me (admittedly overheard by a colleague, but I believe it's something my ex-boss would say!!): 'I'm not surprised she had a m/c, she and her husband are both overweight.' and 'She was only 7 weeks, I don't know why she can't just get over it.' The worst part is that she had a m/c herself six months ago.
18-06-2012 15:33 #35
Mine wasn't said directly to me but while I was in recovery after having a D&C for a missed misscarriage at 10 weeks 4 days.
As I said I was lying in recovery after having my D&C when a nurse came in to see if I was in any pain or needed anything. Her name was Sarah.
It had gone abut an hour or so and I had just been dozing and I hear a conversation between Sarah and 2 other nurses. They were discussing in great detail Sarah's 10 week pregnancy and how she hadn't told her mum yet and that she was planing on giving her mother a mother's day card. She then went on to describe how much amniotic fluid was in the sac etc etc.... She then waltz in and said was I OK???
No I bl00dy wasn't OK! I complained to managment and got a phone call and apology the next day.
18-06-2012 18:44 #36
People say some really insensitive things, I couldn't believe it...
The things that hurt the most was from a friend who was the same weeks pregnant as I was - 'At least you know you can get pregnant. This bub wasn't meant to be for you, you can try again soon anyway'.
She knew how long it had taken us just to conceive..it just hurt alot. Especially with the comment this bub wasn't meant to be for you. I had to walk away...
18-06-2012 20:52 #37Senior Member
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At least you know you can get pregnant was the most common
There will be other babies (But I wanted this one )
and from the obstetrician... "You can have more fun practicing"
Gosh people annoyed me! I would rather them say nothing than something that they thought was well meaning but was just hurtful!
18-06-2012 21:12 #38
My worst was from a "friend" who told me to "stop falling pregnant because you should stop killing all these babies. You should be the one who dies, not innocent babies".
I've had 2 mc. One when my xdf and his mates assulted me at 22 weeks in 2007 and another earlier this year at 9 weeks from organic causes.
I'll never ever forget what she said...as if reliving the assault everyday isn't bad enough, I have the echoes of her bitter words, too.
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