Nup. My MIL watches kids every 2nd saturday so i can work, and for appointments for other kids ie toddler terror and lots of open stairs don't mix. She is happy to do so to help us out and for me to get work...11 years as SAHM doesn't look good on resume ( which sh*ts me but that is the truth) she also watches kids when i do volunteer work.
I have no neices or nephews, but i do watch neighbours kids ( differrent lots) sometimes for whole day and think nothing of it. What goes around comes around they repay by doing same.
My BIL and SIL with no kids take my kids for week on holidays up north.
But honestly if the relative had no kids and it was 2 full days maybe some payment.
I might add i feel guilty as hell that MIL has to watch kids every 2nd week( hubby works every 2nd saturday). I think if I paid her i would not feel guilt. But she will never take it, she tells me off when i buy her flowers as " Why I don't deserve those" ( note she never ever gets flowers from anyone so i love to give them to her....she told me 14 years ago that she got flowers once).
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15-06-2012 22:59 #51
15-06-2012 23:03 #52
Yes I would be paying you if I was your SIL. Not as much as it would cost for daycare, but $20 a day seems reasonable as well as sending a packed lunch and nappies etc etc for the child.
15-06-2012 23:05 #53
No - but mum and dad will watch the kids whenever i need them too...
They are all at school tho so generally its weekends
15-06-2012 23:11 #54Senior Member
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15-06-2012 23:32 #55
she asked when we were having a conversation about daycares around the area if I would do it. I said yes. And then got told what days I would be doing. There just seems to be no appreciation.
I feel like I'm being used. Don't get me wrong I love the little one to bits, but its really testing me. Ds was a great sleeper and really easy going as a baby whereas this one only sleeps for 20 mins, and always wants to be held.
15-06-2012 23:34 #56
I should also add, I don't expect money normally when I babysit But I feel like this is different.
15-06-2012 23:44 #57
I guess it depends on your relationship.
I wouldn't pay my family for spending time with their nieces/granddaughters.
I guess if I was in a financially better position than they, and a little bit of extra cash would make a big difference to their week, I would pay them - but not really for babysitting my children, more to help them out if they needed.
If it was a regular thing I would send along a bag of groceries or something each day.
I wouldn't like to accept money from family for babysitting their children either.
However there was a situation with my inlaws a few years ago, where they suggested that I needed to be paying them for looking after their grandchild (they asked to look after her regularly instead of using daycare, my preference was daycare).
I actually stopped sending her. I was actually quite offended that they wanted me to thank them with money for spending a day a week with their granddaughter, with them both being retired, and them asking in the first place!
They also didn't need the money and I was struggling.
It may sound petty but they haven't looked after my children since.
15-06-2012 23:52 #58
15-06-2012 23:57 #59
Hmm I'm not sure, as it's family I don't think there is really a yes or no answer..
I guess it depends how close you are, my family and I are very close and would never charge each other for watching each others kids because it's like they are my/her kids.
But I could definitely understand if you felt like you'd like some compensation? Sorry I'm not more help
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