I've been with dp over 16 years, engaged for 7 of those, but I doubt we'll ever actually marry ( unless I wear him down 😁). He was my boyfriend then fiancée for a bit, now he's my husband ( partner sounds like we are same sex and we're not, so don't want anyone thinking we are!) After being together for so long it's just easier. I would even think about changing my surname to match his and our kids (as this is my main reason for wanting to marry these days). We moved continents together so I don't think it's the commitment thing that is the problem.
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14-06-2012 13:45 #31
14-06-2012 14:06 #32Happy family
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i think a partner is someone who you are in a defacto relationship with or are married
14-06-2012 14:11 #33
I find it really weird when someone calls someone they have been dating for a few months their partner. Partner says to me someone who has made a commitment to you, live together, have joint finances, plans to marry or have children, knowing their address. If you were dating for 2-3 months and only see them weekly or less you've seen them less then 20 times (in real life, Facebook chat doesn't count), I see my personal trainer weekly and she's not my life partner.
To me the term partner is someone you seriously see yourself having a long time future with. Before that, you're dating, he's your boyfriend.
14-06-2012 14:18 #34
I think partner and husband are the same thing. As in partner in life. I don't like the term partner. I'd rather say boyfriend, fiancé then husband but really you wouldn't go around saying his title you would say his name.
14-06-2012 14:22 #35
14-06-2012 15:01 #36Senior Member
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For me it was my age that determined it more, I felt silly saying boyfriend so started saying partner instead.
14-06-2012 15:09 #37-
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Im finding it really curious peoples opinions on the girlfriend/boyfriend thing, ive honestly never associated it with age or even thought to before, everyone i know just says it lol how curious
14-06-2012 16:33 #38
I still call my DP my boyfriend (to myself) because he hasn't proposed. To others I say partner if they are older than me and if they are younger I say he is my boyfriend.
We live together, have been together 4 yrs, share money/bills and have a son together and one on the way so I think once you are financially connected in something or you feel you are equally contributing to something then you are partners.
I should call him my partner always but some people think that means we are same sex so I don't. He is my partner though.
14-06-2012 16:51 #39
DP was my boyfriend still after living together for 6 years, and while i was pregnant with DS. Until one day some sales assistant came up to me and asked 'can I help you' while i was heavily pregnant and looking around the shop, and i responded 'oh I'm just looking for my boyfriend' and decided I was far too old for a boyfriend. I don't call him anything really now, I just refer to him by name. Very occasionally I'll call him either my partner or my husband. I wanted to call him my baby daddy but he was having none of it.
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14-06-2012 17:02 #40
For me I call the boyfriend my partner when he moves in with me or when I move in with him.
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