The hair thing, pfff... I don't even see the issue with messy hair??
Smoking one is the only scenario there I feel uncomfortable with.
I think physically striking a child is different to messy hair or watching tv. Yelling...depends on the yelling and what they are yelling but I would say both could be classified as abuse depending on where child is smacked and how hard and what the parent is yelling and how.
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14-06-2012 08:37 #21Senior Member
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14-06-2012 09:07 #22
I don't understand why this is being asked. Sounds pretty judgemental to me.
Not one of those scenarios calls for any type of discussion about neglect.
The smoking thing is tough because if it was outside I can see why people think it's fine. I grew up in a house where there was always a haze of smoke in the living room...we simply didn't know better and out of all my cousins, the only one with asthma is the one who was born after everyone had quit smoking. The message is getting out there but as with everything our parents did, there are people who use the old 'My mum did it and I turned out fine' chestnut. It's not ideal but it's not abuse or neglect IMHO.
Hair? Gawd, lock my mum up now. My sister (8) ALWAYS looks like she just got up. And her hair only gets washed every few days. Why? Because she inherited our horrible thicker than thick hair and it is impossible to keep nice. We're always telling her to brush it and she comes back looking the same LOL.
And the TV thing, some mothers just struggle. I do. I'm currently in a low point in my depression and I can't even keep my house tidy. DS gets plenty of me, but he also spends a lot of time on the floor (currently learning to crawl) amusing himself. I'm not a bad mother. I'm a great mother. I'm just struggling with a mental illness that is no fault of my own. If someone judged me by that, it shows more about their character than mine.
14-06-2012 09:26 #23
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14-06-2012 10:29 #24
none of them are abuse.
some may be undesirable, but imo not abuse or neglect.
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