I wanted to add too I hope I didn't come across snarky that wasn't my intention. But I think this thread can go one of two ways - fighting or some reflection and insight into the mind of others. Empathy I guess to maybe see another POV.
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11-06-2012 20:54 #61
11-06-2012 20:55 #62
Nothing would ever make me give up my dd she is my whole heart. Even just thinking of this makes me want to cry.
11-06-2012 20:58 #63
11-06-2012 20:59 #64
I think that with discussion comes knowledge and understanding. I know that I am stuggling to understand another's choice to give up being a primary care giver, therefore I've asked a question to gain better insight. Not to be judgemental, but to possible better the advice I give in the future.
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11-06-2012 21:01 #65
I would like to add too it was the moment I was willing to give up DD I realised how much help I needed and that giving her up would do a lot less damage then keeping her with me through my battle with depression. There is plenty of support out there to keep families together if people simply ask for it.
Unless I was physically incapable of actually caring for myself there is no way I could give her up, and by this I mean a total vegetable.
And also for the people that are gobsmacked this has come up after today's thread, bear in mind, in that thread the OP claimed she was fine and didn't need any help help, this was simply the better option so of course people are curious as to what can make a parent think that as I believe most parents would do whatever they could to have their children in their care as this thread is highlighting.
11-06-2012 21:04 #66
I would move mountains for my kids. If it ment doing things I wasn't proud of to ensure they didn't miss out then I would do it.
My children are my life now. Mine and their fathers responsibility. If something happened to dh and I was left to provide for them solo I would do everything I possibly could to ensure I was a fit and able parent to give my children what they need.
11-06-2012 21:11 #67
However, I couldn't give a flying to what others may have thought about that as my only thought was what was best for DD. Staying with the mother isn't always what is best, I think sometimes our society forgets that.
As for the last few hours on BH, that is the exact reason why I thought it would be good to ask the question.
Discussion brings about many different view points.
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11-06-2012 21:11 #68
What do people consider 'not coping' for them? a mental illness or just not enjoying parenting? if people here come to the point they truly hated being a parent would they give up custody? would you seek counselling, soldier on, or would you consider it best for your children to be raised by someone who wanted to parent them? no judgement just an honest question
11-06-2012 21:15 #69
Ohhh I can't imagine having to give up DS for anything at all... But yes of course there's a list of possibilities... And in those cases I'll have him in temporary (preferably) care with family..
- death (both DH and me)
- serious illness where I'm unable to perform my motherly role..
- if my life's in danger (Hitman!!) and such extreme cases that hopefully will never apply to me...or any of u.
11-06-2012 21:16 #70
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