Not a whinger. Not at all. Your feelings are perfectly valid and understandable. It took a few conversations for my DH to 'get it'. I remember we had a lightbulb moment but I can't remember what I said that triggered it.
I agree that he needs to know how this makes you feel. Really know. If he says that he's just not interested in s.ex point out that its not necessarily about s.ex. That you would love to cuddle, and be told you're hot and attractive and feel wanted. That's not just about s.ex. This isn't just about his libido - its about intimacy and feelings.
And I agree with Fearless - It is very normal. So many of my female friends complain about the same thing.
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08-06-2012 21:55 #11
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08-06-2012 22:15 #13
Google "love languages" by Dr Chapman. You might find this really enlightening for your relationship - DH and I found it quite useful to think about and it also helps you to understand other relationships in your life.
08-06-2012 22:21 #14
Just another lady popping in to say you are not alone!!!
Big hugs!! It is very hard to deal with sometimes, but do know it's nothing you are doing at all hun xox
P.s I also highly recommend reading the 5 love languages! And if you can get him to as well would be beneficial
08-06-2012 22:23 #15
Replying quickly tonight but will come back tomorrow
08-06-2012 22:37 #16
I'm so sorry to hear that you and your DP are going through this. You are absolutely not alone and I know how awful it feels like firsthand. In fact, I started a thread a while ago, on the same topic.
I wish I had any advice, but I am afraid this virtual hug will have to do:
08-06-2012 23:08 #17
23-06-2012 16:10 #18
My husband and I have sex probably every 6 months.... We went 2 years after our honeymoon and I don't even remember if we did it there... He just doesn't seem to..... need it (or something). I don't know that all men are sex heads.
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23-06-2012 19:04 #19
Just a quick one....his lower desire may actually come from a health perspective. There was a time where DP had no desire for s3x at all. He got a full checkup at the docs and it had come out that he had very low testosterone and that caused his low libido. He was prescribed testosterone supplements and he was like a new man.
10-09-2012 21:02 #20
Feel like my husband doesn't find me attractive
I realise this is a slightly old post so I hope your man has made you feel more gorgeous and appreciated since. Just wanted to add to the voices saying "You are not alone". My DP and I only DTD once or twice a month at the moment. He falls asleep in 10 seconds flat too and if I try to cuddle him in bed he often asks "what are you doing?" with such suspicion. He does tell me I am gorgeous, sexy etc though, so I'm hoping it's just temporary low libido.
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