On forums like this, you get people like me who are passionately against routine infant circumcision where a medical need for it is not in evidence. You also get those who are passionately for routine circumcision as a preventative measure for a problem that may never exist. You also get a sprinkling of circumcision fetish folk, who I am best not to discuss at all.
However, all of these varying groups can usually agree that if a 4yo has an issue, something needs to be done. That something is consulting a specialist. Nobody on this forum can really give you any medical advice on what course of action should be taken in your son's case. That is why your first and only course of action should be consulting a peadiatric urologist. A gp can give you a referral, but shouldn't be your end stop, they are specialists in general medicine, not paediatric urological issues. Also, reading all the pro circ or anti circ sites out there won't be any help, they may just confuse the issue for you.
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11-06-2012 09:51 #21
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11-06-2012 14:42 #23-
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So if we have already tried creams with no success, what other options really are there besides a circumcision? What is the point of going to a specialist that is going to try what we already tried? Then eventually tell what I already know is needed. He has already seen behaviour specialists in the last couple of months I don't want to send him to more specialists.
11-06-2012 21:25 #24
How do you know a specialist is going to recommend more creams? A specialist may recommend a circumcision for all I know, or there may be some other new treatment (maybe not a full circ, but cutting a slit?? so it can't re-tighten). What I am saying is I don't know if there is other options and I wouldn't suggest you try to convince your wife of something until you have both looked into the options that only a paediatric urologist can advise you of.
Maybe it's not even a penis problem. If he has some form of ADHD or other form of developmental issue , he may have issues with clothing and sensation rather than his penis. The creams may have changed the sensations he experienced rather than fixed a tight foreskin issue if it even exists. Get a referral to a paediatrician. You seem to be convinced that surgery may fix this, but if it is behavioural you may just create more problems. It is best to get to the root of the issue with specialists rather than focus on what you are guessing to be the problem.
12-06-2012 18:33 #25-
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Have you seen a picture of a penis that has had a dorsal slit procedure? You will understand why I feel so strongly against that alternative. It is basically a partially exposed head with a big lump of skin hanging from underneath.
Ignoring his behaviour and putting this aside, a simple exam of his foreskin reveals quite a long foreskin with overhang, that has formed a tight restrictive band and I am unable to locate the urethra. There is no question.
As for his behaviour and the potential surgery, that is an interesting point and I am not sure if the behaviour will get worse or better. I can only hope better if it gives him relief long term but short term may be a different story. I do concede that visiting the specialist as a needed step never the less. The part I need to work out myself is how to discuss this with spouse with more success than previously.
I guess the consensus is that at the very least it is a situation that requires further investigation.
17-06-2012 11:17 #26
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