I'm so sorry your going through this. I actually thought I was reading about my own In laws.... Mine are just as bad.
Run, run, run... These people are abusive and you don't want your DD to think its ok to put up with abuse. As she gets older, she will see things more clearly, this is not goo for her. You need to make a stand and show your DD what "not to put up with"!!!
If your DH is supportive, that is fantastic. Mine is, but to a degree. I agree with him, go talk to a counsellor as they really can show you things from a perspective you haven't considered before. We go to counseling due to my DH's parents ****. It helps a lot. You would be doing this for you, not them. It will help you.
Those In laws are really retarded!!!
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08-06-2012 13:32 #21
08-06-2012 13:41 #22
These replys are shining a very big light here. I agree, get away, far away. Don't look back!
If you ever see them again, just walk past and say 'yuck..' out loud. Because that's all they are babe!! You DH and DD deserve better!!
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08-06-2012 13:41 #23
What...... The...... $@(&!!!!!!
Congratulations on holding it together for so long..... Had it been me in your situation if have punched someone out by now!!
Please keep these nasty people away from your precious baby girl.... Yes it's not fair thy she will miss out on having grandparents but in all seriousness, do you want such toxic people having any sort of influence in her life?
I'm glad your DH has walked away from them so that should make it easier for you to do also, although if it was me I would have wanted him to stand up for me a bit more but then again I don't know these people and don't know the full story.
Unfortunately these kind of people don't change - I have one as a mother and have had nothin to do with her for nearly 5 years and I couldn't be happier.
Good luck with it all but please PLEASE protect your baby girl from such evil!
08-06-2012 13:45 #24Senior Member
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I just wanted to say that it sounds like you're doing a great job - it's very admirable that you take your dd to visit them so she doesn't miss out on her grandparents. But saying that, they are toxic and you don't want them to have such a negative effect on your little girl.
I do empathize with you, my in laws suck and I've been with my partner for almost 9 years. I actually burst into tears when he tells me his parents are coming to visit. My food is 'crap' and I was told that I shouldn't get too excited when I was pregnant. They always make it seem like i'm the bad guy who is stopping them from seeing their son and granddaughter.
I hope you are able to work it all out. It's nice to hear that your partner supports you.
08-06-2012 14:00 #25Senior Member
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They are awful, I would move far far away from them to a different state and i wouldn't be shy in telling them why either.
Tell them they are mean, spiteful, horrible people and you want nothing to do with them.
Your dp needs to stand up to them too.
08-06-2012 14:20 #26Senior Member
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My dads brothers and sisters were always mean to my mum. My mum never said anything bad about them to me. One day wen I was 11 my uncle went off at my mum in front of me. My family stopped seeing him for years, only to reconcile after about 10 years.
I will never, ever ever speak to that man again. I hate him for the sh1t he and his wife did and said about my mum.
The reason I tell u this story is that never worry that your daughter will not believe or stop loving you, no matter what lies they tell her.
You'd be better off cutting them off I say. If and when your Dd asks about them, always be polite, she will realise that they are not nice.
Good luck, my ILs are crap so I know how hard it can be.
08-06-2012 14:30 #27
Seeing a professional is a good idea. Toxic people like this spread emotional damage around like its a hobby. I'm so sorry that you got such nasty inlaws.
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08-06-2012 14:49 #28Senior Member
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I just wanted to offer some I am amazed you managed to continue to be a good d-i-l despite their actions (I would have snapped a long time ago). However I think for your family's sake you need to cut them out of your lives. If they will say such horrible spiteful things when you have gone out of your way to continue a relationship imagine how much hurt they will bring upon your DD (Even if they are nice to her imagine how horrible it would be for her to hear them bagging out her parents once she is old enough to undestand).
I think seeing a councellor is a good idea to get another perspective and come to grips with the sadness/feeling of loss and hurt that you feel.
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