No but I would refer to them as being 'blue' only because 'ranga' is something I call my own kids so its special for them
+ Reply to Thread
Results 71 to 80 of 147
07-06-2012 08:29 #71
07-06-2012 08:34 #72
Do you think tho (this is a general 'you' not specific, but anyone feel free to respond)
That one day the redheaded child who has been called ranga at home (in a loving way) is going to be called ranga at school, in a mean way, and going to realise that this word is used in a way to hurt people, that its not gping to confuse the child as to 'why would mum and dad call me ranga if its used in a mean way?'
Im not entirely sure of this intent idea. And this is going to sound extremely in poor form but im gonna say it because its the same thing.
My sons have autism and ds#1 has an intellectual disability. Could i call him lovingly 'my little r*tard?' based on the intent logic and would it be ok? Its only ok because i love him?
07-06-2012 08:46 #73
Giving this more thought, is it acceptable to call someone fattie, baldy, midget or any other host of names?
Again, I am not talking about the pet names family members might have for one another, I am talking about outside the family home and outside close friendships.
The Following User Says Thank You to Ana Gram For This Useful Post:
07-06-2012 08:55 #74
Family dynamics are alot different to random strangers.
I guess it's a matter of me not seeing the " harm" as others may do because my words aren't based on hurting anyone.
The Following User Says Thank You to diesal444 For This Useful Post:
07-06-2012 09:00 #75
07-06-2012 09:07 #76
I have blonde hair however my 3 brothers have bright orange/red hair. I think the term Ranga is a phase hopefully. I never heard it through school but when my middle brother was in high school it seemed very popular.
He chose to embrace it and has happily taken it on as his nickname and he even had it printed on the back of his school leavers jumper. I guess it dosnt hurt him as he chooses not to let it. I on the other hand don't like it and get offended if I was to hear anyone call my brothers that. I also got called dumb blonde at school.
I don't think kids should be calling people names but I don't think that's ever going to stop completely. Kids need to learn to be able to shrug some things off. Not everyone in life is going to be nice to them.
My grandma taught me
"sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me"
07-06-2012 09:08 #77
07-06-2012 09:08 #78Senior Member
- Join Date
- May 2012
My daughter gets this all the time and it doesn't mother me. Even we call her this!
What's more annoying is the "where did that hair come from" question.
mummy to gods gift to us
07-06-2012 09:13 #79Senior Member
- Join Date
- Oct 2007
As a child my father called me Katy-pottamus. It was meant lovingly, it was a term of endearment - I HATED IT - it slammed home to me every day that I was fat and I was different. My sister was called Splinter - it was a term of endearment, it pointed out that she was stick thin. I HATED IT. She wa thin I was FAT, FAT, FAT.
My DD HATES her grandfather calling her 'Pet', it is meant as a term of endearment - she hates it and now tells him that she is NOT his 'Pet', she is not a dog or a cat
Think long and hard what you all like to think of as terms of endearment - you just might mean it lovingly but your child just might not. Today they mightned mind, but at some stage they might just say they do, and it might be after years of using the name they tell you that they don't see being called a 'ranga' as anything loving.
I can't find the link now, but I did read a page a short while ago where some psychologists talked about terms of endearment and the long term effects they can have on some people.
The Following User Says Thank You to WorkingClassMum For This Useful Post:
07-06-2012 09:15 #80
in the playground children are always going to call each other names, usually based on some type of physical appearance. whether it is their hair color, skin color, body type, height......
where do you draw the line?
and because some people find it offensive, should it be 'banned'? what about the people who use the term endearingly....
and i can't believe some posters are equating the word ranga with the n word. worlds apart
Baby SensoryBaby Sensory is the only baby programme that offers a complete approach to learning & development. Our classes offer ...
LATESTWhy it is OK for your child to be differentWhat is a blessing way? How is it different to a baby shower?7 ways to break the ‘mumnotony’ at home
POPULARWhen can I start giving chores to my children?New baby nursery checklist – a guide to newborn essentialsWhat to pack for labour and hospital – a checklist
FORUMS - chatting now ...
April/May TTC group chatConception & Fertility General Chat
Albert?Choosing Baby Names
Do u take it personally? Kids friends..General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
So impatient :( help!!Introductions
IVF babies due Sep/Oct/Nov 2017pregnancy and babies through IVF
Loan for a businessFamily Finances
Time share for holidaysGeneral Travelling with Kids Tips
ongoing chat threadGeneral Chat
Taking annual leave before maternity leave starts?Maternity Leave