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07-06-2012 11:27 #81Senior Member
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07-06-2012 11:39 #82
I also consider my babies feelings.
07-06-2012 11:40 #83Guest Guest
How many children do you have and what's the age gap? How do you put them to sleep? How do you tend to each one without one ever crying?
07-06-2012 11:43 #84
This is such a controversial topic. When I had DS I wouldn't let him whinge. I deliberately put him to bed asleep everytime. I ended up with PND and I think sleep-deprivation was a huge factor. I can't cope with no sleep, and I had a thyroid issue that made it extra tough. I honestly can't remember much of the first 8 months of DS' life and I'm pretty sure he was negatively affected by having a depressed mother. Would he have been negatively affected by being taught to self-settle? (in the way the OP describes, not from full-on CC or anything). I don't think so.
A friend taught her baby to self-settle by putting him to bed awake and rocking him till he fell asleep - while he cried. At the time I was appalled and very judgemental, but you know her son has slept 12 hours a night since 6 weeks old. He has never appeared to be sleep-deprived, he's happy, his mum is happy and has probably enjoyed that early motherhood time more than I did. My DS has cried so much in my arms from tiredness I think it probably has been bad for him.
With baby #2 I want to teach it to self-settle. I've talked to loads of women in my mum's generation as to how did they put baby to bed. All of them who had good sleepers put baby down, let them grizzle for a moment or two and if it escalated they went in. My mum did it with me, my MIL did it with DH, my boss did it with her kids.
Yes I think CC is not great, letting a baby scream until they give up. Leaving a baby in fear or stress until their body shuts down is awful and will affect their attachment and their brain development. This isn't what this thread is about.
OP I think you are doing a great job.
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07-06-2012 14:24 #87
Neekie how long is your baby up between sleeps during the day? I found DS is more harder to settle when he is over tired.
07-06-2012 15:44 #88
Neekie you sound like such a caring and committed mummy! If you didn't care about your baby you wouldn't be trying to work out what was best for them! I truly believe in doing what is best for you and your family and we all do things differently. We should try to support one another this parenting is a tough gig!!! I really believe that a happy mummy equals a happy baby. I can clearly see that you want what's best for your bubba and I hope you can find what works for you. All the best xxx
07-06-2012 16:26 #89
neekie - you can ask to have a thread closed if you want so nobody else can reply
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