I feel as though I am at a cross road in life which has resulted in a lot of deep thinking with no results. I am struggling to know who I am and the person I want to be. I don't know where I'm headed in life or what I want to see in my future.
So it got me thinking, is there anyone out there who has this all figured out? I know a deep question for this time of the morning. I need some inspiration and guidance. Maybe I'm having a 1/4 of a century life crisis...
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06-06-2012 07:44 #1
06-06-2012 07:56 #2
Hugs. I'm 25 in 3 weeks and going through the Exact. Same. Thing
No advice...just smiles and hugs
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06-06-2012 08:13 #3
I am in EXACTLY the same boat. Feeling a little overwhelmed at the possibilities that stretch before me and have no clear path or direction at the moment.
Frankly, it's a sucky feeling!
06-06-2012 08:17 #4
Usually this is what people go through during their 20's. The 20's is a decade of figuring our who you are. By the time you hit your 30's you may or may not have it figured out but you come to accept that you're just not going to have it all figured out and you're ok with that.
06-06-2012 08:21 #5
Hmmm, yes and no. For me, I had it all figured out in my 20's, then with the end of my marriage and subsequent relationship, I struggle to find direction and meaning to life without having a partner and kids all the time. So I think it can come to you anytime during your life, especially when you have a major change happen to your life.
06-06-2012 08:36 #6
I think a quarter life crisis is a very real thing! Until I got pregnant with DS, I was feeling exactly the same way. Once I got pregnant I felt I had more purpose and direction. Now he's 16 months old, I'm 27 and I'm back to square one!
I feel now that I have thoroughly worked out what I should have done 10 years ago! Hind sight is a wonderful thing :-/ just got to work on figuring the preset and the future!
06-06-2012 09:32 #7
I'll be 30 in October and I still don't know who I am. I don't know what I want to do. I feel lost.
I always knew what I wanted to do, but apart from having children which I definitely wanted - it hasn't worked out the way I thought. I don't know what direction to go in now.
06-06-2012 09:39 #8
Yeh well I knew who I was, I just had to learn who I was without HIM IYKWIM? Yeh you can go through that with life changes too but I think it's easier to accept that you'll never have it all figured out when you're older.
Like seriously...I still don't....and I don't care! LOL I'm not even going to TRY and work it out anymore...just gonna enjoy life and let the chips fall where they may
Maybe I feel that way cos I'm closer to 40? (Ok I didn't just say that did I?)
06-06-2012 09:43 #9
I'm 26 and am having the exact same thoughts.
Have I done right by DS?
Should I stay in my marriage that has more downs than ups?
Should I pursue the study I'm thinking of doing? Will it lead to anything?
Do I give up and walk away or fight until I get things the way I think I want them?
Why the hell won't my husband stand up for me and see things from my point of view?
Why the F can DSS BM not figure out how to parent?
Why did I marry this man and have to deal with all the crap that comes from BM and DSS?
Major 1/4 life crisis.
No help, no answers, just questions without answers.
06-06-2012 10:13 #10Senior Member
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I faced 1/4 life crisis - my marriage broke down, I miscarried a baby, I changed jobs and shifted all in 12 month period. I started night school and enter into a really inspiring and yet damaging relationship with a man nearly old enough to be my father.
I faced a similar crisis when I was 29 and realized I had wasted a large part of my life - yes I had experience, piercings, tattoos and a shaved head, I had exercised my wild child and 'settled down' and had little to show for it - I achieved very little.
Yet again, when facing 40 I then realized that many of my pipe dreams were never going to eventuate and I had to rewrite my life's goals (yep being a super model and world famous politician just wasn't going to eventuate).
I am now staring down the barrel of other life changing events (I think I am turning into my father). I am fairly comfortable with who I am and am ready to make changes for the next person I will be.
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