I heard that mother ease/baby ease is actually better for babies (not children). They respond better to the 'baby talk'. I don't like the 'dwink' etc but the softer, high pitch, excited tone for babies actually makes a lot of sense to me than talking to them as you would your husband or older children.
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06-06-2012 10:16 #51Senior Member
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See to me 'baby talk' is when you pick a baby up and go boo boo ba ba goo goo ga ga stuff, just noises that mean nothing.
I spoke to Ds in simple english words from birth, always real words.
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06-06-2012 12:04 #54
I always talk to DD1 and DD2 while we are at the shops and can have quite a good conversation about all sorts of things with dd1 (she is 7). When dd2 came along I do the same. It might be a one sided conversation at the moment as I ask her what I need to get from the shops. Not long ago I realised I was doing it ALL the time, I think I do it as a way to remember what I need and dd2 seems to love the attention of someone talking to her even if its only to ask her what else we needed. The child health nurse said we should do it because it helps create a bond with the baby and helps them to eventually learn simple words in time. In fact she said you should do a running commentary of your day because it helps baby to learn the language and be social from an early age.
Anyway, I was at the shops and going throught the check out and joked with the girl that babies give you an excuse to talk to yourself. She went on the comment that there is a regular that shops there that has conversations with an older child that you would only have with a partner and how sad that is cos she must have a mental illness. Thinking about it after I left I thought to myself that I have mature conversations with DD1 about what should we have for dinner or what else do I need to get or you have your own money you want to spend so you look down that isle and i will be down the one next to you, or how her day was or what we are doing on the weekend.
Anyway, I started to realise maybe it was me she was talking about.
I dont know how to feel about that. Being thought of as having a mental illness cos I talk to my kids in adult language instead of the irritating over the top, humiliating baby talk some people do. DD1 has a great vocabulary and great conversational skills. When she was about 2 there was thunder and lightening, she asked what was making the noise and light. We could have told her the reason DP and I were told when we were kids that it was god playing drums and using a torch but instead DP and I told her it was the clouds banging together making noise and causing the light to flash. Well she thought we were silly and said No really what is causing it. For her to actually believe us we had to give her a detailed explaination of a build up of static electricy and the air pressure etc etc It had to be really technical. We even had to make stuff up to make our explanantion believable for her cos she thought we were making it up. We have never had an innapropriate conversation with her or done the whole goo goo gaa gaa baby talk with her and her language skills are great. She loves science and knowing how things work and understands why fruit and vegetables are better for you than fast food take away because we have talked about it from day 1 literally.
ETA: I must add that I too consider baby talk as being goo goo gaa gaa and sounds that have no meaning and are just complete and utter nonsense. I dont consider mumumum or dadadadad or yum yum yum as baby talk as they are repeatitive sounds of actual words.
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06-06-2012 12:09 #55
I have always spoken to my daughters as adults. None of the baby talk cr@p for us.
06-06-2012 16:56 #56
There are no goo-goo's or gaa-gaa's.
06-06-2012 19:58 #57
Baby-Talk, to me, is "Bubba want a dinkie," Instead of "Would you like a drink?" It's not something that comes naturally to me (and IMO, that's a bit of a "thank god," thing because I loathe it).
I still talked to my daughter in basic terms too though, when I was trying to teach her something, "Oven - HOT! OUCH!" or whatever. I also talk to babies in a higher, more sing-song voice than I'd talk to others... but I personally don't count that as baby-talk. I count that as me altering my tone of voice to cater to my audience (same as I'd talk to DP and an elderly woman differently, for example).
I'm satisfied with my lack of "goo-gaa," in DD's younger years - she speaks fabulously and had a great vocabulary. She never had speech issues, so I'm not really sure that my lack of babbling back had any real negative impact.
06-06-2012 20:06 #58
Nah no War and Peace here, just basic age appropriate words and sentences. Would you like a drink? are you tired? I love you honey. That sort of thing. As I said people aren't referring to babbling but the cutsey type talk. I'm well aware babbling is normal and how babies learn to speak.
Each to their own. But the above type of talking never got a look in, in our house and I believe it's detrimental to good speech. JMO
06-06-2012 20:12 #59
I am confused as I think people have different ideas of baby talk. But people have said they speak the same to their toddler as they would to an adult, all the time. I think that's not helpful. I don't like 'widdle dwinkies' either.
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06-06-2012 20:22 #60
I guess we aren't all the same in this thread. I wouldn't talk to a 12 month old using the same big words I use with DH.... although I do with my 7 going on 8yo. She then asks what the word means, I tell her, and then down the track she'll use it in it's correct context. So age appropriate. I want my kids as they get older to extend themselves and ask what words mean that's how they learn
and 'widdle dwinkies" *shudders* I knew someone that spoke that way to her child and the poor little boy at 3-4 was talking like that too
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