Just wanted to ask all young mums out there how old were they when people stopped looking down on them for having children at a young age? I had my daughter at 20 and my son at 23 Im neally 24 and i still get looks and even had people shake there heads and snicker comments at me!
Just a bit annoyed lol
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30-05-2012 14:39 #1Member
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Sick of being judged, how old do i have to be for it to stop?
30-05-2012 14:47 #2
Hmm do you look heaps young? I had DD1 at 19.. Am due to have another now at 24.. I have never noticed anyone judging me baded on my age.. But then i dont look young... People always assume im older... Maybe that is why? Or maybe i just have my head too far up my a*** and dont give a flying f*** what people think, so i dont notice the sniggers?
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30-05-2012 14:52 #3
Unfortunately I don't ever see it stopping. I had DD at 22 and there will always be the same age gap
Some people will always continue to look down on young mums but hey. I don't feel I need to prove myself to everyone with those views so just try and ignore it.
I have managed to find lots of people who don't care that I am young and are very supportive (other mothers included). I think you just need to surround yourself with people like that and ignore the ones who look down on you.
Easier said than done tho
30-05-2012 14:52 #4
I had DS at 23 and DD at 24, the only time I noticed this was when I went to a mothers group and there was a massive age divide. I was the only one there under about 33 and I felt very judged by the older mothers. They too had just had their first but treated my like I knew nothing. I was very frustrated, because as far as I am concerned I had my children at a really good age, I didn't think I was a young mum at all...
30-05-2012 14:52 #5Senior Member
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I was 19 when we started TTC, 20 started ivf, 22 daughter born, 23 pregnant again. I can't say I've ever received any comments or looks. I'm quite mature for my age though.
Do you look super young?
30-05-2012 14:54 #6
i was pregnant at 18 and had DD at 19 - i had my DS at 21... Yeah i get more looks at the school when i go to pick them up...
30-05-2012 15:00 #7
i had my ds at 17, he is now 5, and i have a 3yr old DD. i dont get judged so much in passing by (i must look old lol) but when i tell people my age and ds's age i get it sometimes. i just dont care anymore lol
30-05-2012 15:01 #8
OP, I think it's (unfortunately) human nature to judge about EVERYTHING!! Just look at some of the threads on BH I had my LO at 31 years old and I found myself in situations where I felt I was being judged... I think you just have to shrug it off and remind yourself that if you don't know them personally, then their opinions don't matter!!
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30-05-2012 15:09 #9
Your post has made me think! I just found out I'm pregnant today and DF and I are both 22...
I think we'll probably be judged because we dress kind of young. By that I mean tee shorts, hoodies, jeans and sneakers. A lot of the 'grown up' mums I know tend to dress 'older' or more 'maturely'. Cardigans, wraps, tailored pants, etc. MBA total generalisation but just something I've noticed.
Pay them no heed! Let them judge. I know plenty of younger people who unfortunately judge older mums for their age too. Just an uunfortunate cycle of judgement perpetuated by women.
30-05-2012 15:12 #10Senior Member
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Once your children start making you look old!!!
Eta for me this is happening at 24 eek!! I just don't dress like I used to.. I find myself opting for more modest clothes and have noticed some er.. smile lines
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