We specified no children when we had our wedding. Those that mattered didn't mind and the one person who minded didn't matter... we were secretly relieved when she declined to come in a great big song/dance & huff.
Ours was a small wedding and my husband and I felt quite strongly about not having children there.
I have been to one wedding with my dd and that is only because she was invited and it was a daytime wedding starting at 9am. We left mid afternoon (she was about 15 months at the time) and I chose to go home with her while my husbad went onto the evening celebrations elsewhere.
I wouldn't dream of taking either of my kids to an evening wedding at their current ages (3 years and the other 5 months). I'm happy to stay at home with them while my husband goes.
If we had a regular babysitter (such as a grandparent) I'd consider leaving the kids at home with that person and going... but not at this stage because my bub will only drink milk from me not a bottle.
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26-05-2012 15:05 #31Senior Member
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26-05-2012 15:07 #32Senior Member
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To the person who said they got an invite saying no children or dogs wtf? I'd be offended by that as well.
I personally wouldn't go to a function that said no kids. I see us as a family unit, including my kids. TO tell me my kids can't go is like inviting me and telling me my husband can't go. Therefore, if one of us isn't invited then we simply don't go. I don't hold any grudges or anything against the people that choose not to have children at their wedding, they just need to understand that I choose not to go because my husband and I work during the week, I'm not going to palm my kids off on the days that we do have off so I can go to a Wedding/function.
26-05-2012 15:33 #33
I would never have said no kids, but now that DD is older, totally. I would love an outing without her, isn't that terrible. Maybe I have to go get myself married.
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26-05-2012 15:37 #34
I have absolutely no problem with children not being invited to weddings and specified no children at our wedding. Nobody had a problem with it.
26-05-2012 15:43 #35
Even if the kids were invited, I'd leave them at home.
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26-05-2012 15:54 #36Senior Member
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Yep. I don't believe weddings are a place for children. We aren't having children at ours apart from our own unless somebody has a newborn they need to bring
26-05-2012 15:59 #37Senior Member
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Funny that.... In my family the invite usually says if you don't bring yavkids ya can't come lol!!!
In saying this if I was invited to a wedding but asked not to bring my babies then I wouldn't be offended if I could get a babysitter all would be good if not I wouldnt go.
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26-05-2012 16:03 #38
We stated that kids were welcome at our ceremony at mum's property which was followed by afternoon tea.
We did not allow children at the reception (drinks/nibbles and dinner).
We paid for 2 qualified child carers who work with my sister to look after my DD and her cousins. Most people also had accommodation at the reception venue so people could arrange a babysitter to stay if they brought them.
26-05-2012 16:11 #39
Unfortunately as someone with no babysitters available, I've had to decline a wedding not too long ago because they said 'no kids'. DH was still going to go, so that at least ONE of us could attend.
We got the "If one of you isn't going to bother coming, don't bother either one showing up" song and dance. We didn't have a choice in the matter so I was really angry about it (it was all coming from the wife to be mind you, who's a real... *cough* anyway) because it was made to look like we were just being lazy and couldn't be bothered to make the effort to go.
The whole friendship broke down because of it. Previous to that we'd been considering asking said friend to be our DS's godfather because we were so close and our DS loved him so much. After that, I was a bit heartbroken that he refused to have DS at the ceremony.
I mean really, who says no to their godson (he knew that we'd made plans to ask him) coming to just the ceremony (not reception) to see him get married? He was old enough to understand that he needed to be quiet so I was very sad that it all fell apart.
26-05-2012 16:21 #40
We had no kids at our wedding. It was in my parents backyard with an inground swimming pool and all the gates were open for access to loo's etc.
As PP have said if I couldn't get a babysitter I wouldn't go if no kids were allowed.
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