There are many psychological reasons a child starts bed wetting, some innocent and some sinister.
Please take her back to the GP, let her talk to the GP or a trusted medical professional alone.
It may be something lke being bullied at school, something she saw that's upsetting her, maybe she has night terrors too
The first thing - which is really really hard - is put aside your anger. Let her know that you are not upset or angry and that you will help her work through this. Teach her to strip her bed and leave the washing machine open at night so she can put the sheet and pjs straight into the machine. Explain she has to have a quick shower every morning.
Ask her if she'd like some pulluos until this is worked through. Once she is assured of your support, it will be easier to deal with the underlying issues - medical or psychological.
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01-07-2012 09:44 #11Senior Member
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01-07-2012 10:02 #12
Hope you can find some answers soon. I was also going to suggest leaving the washing machine lid open so she can just throw her pj's in without feeling self conscious or embarrassed about it. Also with the bed put a waterproof mattress protector over the top of a sheet so she can just pull off the wet sheet and protector and pop it in the machine herself and go back to bed if necessary.
Maybe some of the flushable kids wipes for cleaning herself up might help too.
Have you tried taking her to the toilet before you go to bed?
Goodluck, hope you get it sorted out soon.
01-07-2012 19:56 #13Senior Member
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Thanks for your suggestions, but I have tried all that (except GP/paed/psych help). I must admit I have been losing my patience abit lately with this, but in the beginning, I was ever so calm, and ever so discrete about it, and it made NO difference at all. She knows how to tidy it up, she has a Kylie on her bed so that it can be taken off without fuss, she has wetwipes next to the toilet to wipe herself down, she has my support if she wakes up and comes and tells me she's had an accident. I take her to the toilet before I go to bed.
She did say today that she hides her things because she's worried I'll get angry, but she has no reason to think that, I mostly don't get angry (though as I said lately I have abit but it hasn't made any difference).
Her dad does the usual "everything's perfect at my house" thing, aka denial. She hasn't wet there much though I did notice last time she had wet pants in her bag (which he didn't tell me as he probably didn't know).
I've tried a star chart, still trying it actually, she likes getting stars but then most days she just does the flippant "meh, I don't care if I don't get a reward".
I refuse to get her pullups as I don't think it will give her encouragement to stop, she would be happy to just keep peeing in them because she's able to.
If she doesn't stop in the next week or so I will take her back to the GP again.
If anyone else has any ideas please feel free to add them, I'd really appreciate it.
01-07-2012 20:03 #14
Ok first know you not alone and her behaviour is a normal stage they go through. I have a 12yr who still wets most nights. He see a pead for it and his adhd. I think maybe a alarm may help you. It is worth a try.
Maybe one like this
01-07-2012 20:36 #15Senior Member
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Do you use one of those sensors for your child? If so, does it work well?
How do you deal with the frustrations of it all?
Ok I'm going to try really really hard to be calm and understanding from now on, like I was when she first started wetting. And if there's no improvement in the next week I will take her to the GP again.
She wants to have a sleepover party for her bday in 3 weeks.....
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