I was interested to read a news article this morning about an olympian, stating that "Staying a virgin has been harder than training to be an olympian".
She said she made the lifestyle decision to stay a virgin because sex was "a gift I want to give my husband".
Each to their own, it's not my virginity, however we all have an opinion and mine is that it's weird to think of virginity as a gift...
How is it a present? What is it about someone's virginity that is gift-like?
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24-05-2012 09:26 #1
Is virginity a gift??
24-05-2012 09:28 #2
Here you go, you can be the first one to hurt the heck out of my lady bits!
Nice gift! Nart.
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24-05-2012 09:29 #3Senior Member
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I don't think it's any less of a gift to someone just because you've given that "gift" to someone in the past - funny how it's mostly women who call it a gift
S3x is something incredibly special and intimate between my DP and I. I've done it with others and so has he. We don't appreciate it any less.
I'd be incredibly creeped out if DP told me he wanted me to wait until marriage so I could give him my gift lol but I do think it's nice that some couples want to wait. It's just not for me.
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24-05-2012 09:33 #4
Hmmm, don't know if I would ever refer to it as a 'gift', but I guess people who 'save themselves' for that special one on their wedding day etc, etc, see it as a gift.
It always astounds me how every now and then a news article will pop up with some teenage girl willing to auction off her virginity! But what astounds me even more is the men that consider it.
24-05-2012 09:38 #5-
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well it was not a gift for me..
But I think it can be for some and thats beautiful.
24-05-2012 09:46 #6
Virginity is overrated IMO. When I finally lost it at the ripe old age of 21, I was like, "wow, that was so not a big deal and I don't know why society makes a big deal over it!". It wasn't like I'd been holding out though, I just had never been in a relationship that went that far before. However, as a result of having to wait that long, I'd built up all these feelings of nervousness and anticipation, and it was a complete disappointment that it wasn't life-changing and I felt no different afterwards.
My parents both waited, but not really by choice... my mum said she mostly did because she "just knew" that her mum would be able to tell if she'd DTD and she'd get in trouble. FFS Mum, you were an independent woman in your early 20s!
24-05-2012 09:47 #7
I definitely don't view it as a gift, I suppose you could say 'here is a brand new, unused vagina'... score.
I'm pro-chastity (for both genders), sex within a commitment is much less complicated and dangerous.
24-05-2012 09:48 #8
no way! Calling it a gift labels it a commodity, and as someone else mentioned, they can be sold.
Just another way to objectify women and sex.
A man being the 'first' is all about male dominance, like putting a flag on Everest.
Why is it a gift? If you're not the first, does that somehow imply that its less special or important, or that the woman is less valuable as a person?
Also one of the reasons why I detest Tony Abbot!
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24-05-2012 10:00 #9
Definitely not a gift for me. I have a HUGE problem with the double standard - the old stud/**** thing.
And, I personally don't understand why you would want your wedding night shag to be awkward, embarrassing and painful...
24-05-2012 10:03 #10
To me, the idea of virginity is a little ridiculous.
Firstly, because people define sex in such different ways...do you base it on a specific act, the level of emotional connection...what?
Secondly, even if you have a clear idea of what virginity is to you...it sees odd to me to label someone based on having not doing something in particular. I don't label myself based on what foods I haven't eaten or what places I haven't been, why would I based on what other experiences I haven't had?
That said, I completely understand that the term & associated ideas are important to some people - just something that I personally think receives too much attention.
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