And I don't know what, if anything, I can do about it
He's 14, he is an awesome kid, just a bit unique. I'm not entirely surprised people are targeting him because he posts some random things sometimes, but it's making me so angry. There are a couple of girls who are being quite nasty and making up stupid nicknames for him - I'm very much resisting the urge to jump in and stick up for him, but I'm worried I'd just make it worse (probably it's not cool for your 30 year old sister to stick up for you on FB).
Do people think I should do or say something or nothing? FB didn't even exisit when I was in highschool, so I have no idea how it effects the whole social thing. He's a creative, introverted type and I'm scared that it could be getting to him
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23-05-2012 12:11 #1
So my little brother is being bullied on FB...
23-05-2012 12:14 #2
So sorry this has happened to your brother
Can't he just delete or block the girls who are doing it ? He should also consider making his profile private so that only people on his friends list can write on his wall.
23-05-2012 12:14 #3
I can't imagine the stress kids are under these days with Facebook . It was hard enough making friends without the added stress of who's on your Facebook
Don't butt in, just keep a eye on him!
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23-05-2012 12:18 #4
tell him you can see the nasty comments people are making on his fb and you are concerned about him. but dont use fb to speak with him. suggest he leaves fb or changes his info/name/whatever, and so he can ignore these horrid people. if he is a quite introverted person, he might be more upset inside than what he shows or says out loud. that would concern me more. fb can be a nasty world. marie.
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23-05-2012 12:20 #5
23-05-2012 12:21 #6
That's tough. I've never been in your position but if my younger sibling was the subject of abuse on fb, I would probably advise them to 'stand' up to them and show them that he's not going to be 'pushed' by others. I can see that you can't stand to see him hurt but I think if you were to step in, it would probably make things worse. At least if they don't stop, he can show them that he won't go down without a fight. I'm sorry I can't offer any non violent solutions but these days, its just getting harder to solve things the 'nice' way. Hopefully others would be able to come up with a better solution.
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23-05-2012 12:27 #7
If deleting them off his friends list would cause problems at school, could he add them to a restricted list, and not allow them acces to anything other than public posts?
I saw a girl from my sons class go through similar, at the same age (what is it with 14 year olds being so narky!)
My son was really good about it, and he stuck up for her an left her some positive comments, and just tried to be a friend to her.
I hope it helped her, because she really was a lovely girl, just a bit different to the popular crowd.
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23-05-2012 12:27 #8
I'm so sorry your brother is going through this.
No form of bullying is ever nice!
Do these girls go to his school?
Maybe you could ring his school?
Anonymously, or give him the option to do it?
I am well aware that informing the school can make matters worse.. But letting it go can have the same effect.
It's just something to consider.
Every time you see one of these kids post/comment/whatever on his Facebook or target him on Facebook report it as bullying through the FB options, Even go through now and report everything you can see they have done.
There are options to report a comment, post ect when your on your desktop.
If they get enough reports there account can be deleted by Facebook.
You can ever go onto there FB page and report them there for Bullying.
No one should ever be bullied, I was terribly at school to the point we had to move to a different town as they started following me home, I too was "unique"
It can be absolutely damaging!
More people need to act on it!
I wish I had someone looking out for me to inform the right people when I was going through it.. But for a teenager it's very hard to take actions into your own hands.
Sending some to your brother
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23-05-2012 12:31 #9
Can you suggest to him that he creates another 'private' facebook account for his REAL friends and family, that he uses all the time... and then just doesn't ever look at the other one.
Or can you give him suggestions for some really witty comebacks... or just tell him to post lots of really inspirational quotes and stuff.... it will soon make these girls look really really really stupid to be posting up narky things when he's posting up stuff like : "Grow into your own personal greatness"...
If you can convince him to use his FB account where he's being teased to really assert himself as a strong, confident, ambitious, competent young man who is growing into a responsible, confident, secure, motivated man... chances are those silly girls will STFU soon enough, when they realise they are looking really really immature and stupid in comparison to what he's posting. ... tell him to stop posting anything personal, only use that page to post stuff that paints him as a strong, confident, ambitious, competent young man who is growing into a responsible, confident, secure, motivated man...
That's what I'd suggest anyway.
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23-05-2012 12:34 #10
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