I love my maiden name, and love my family and was tempted to keep it when DH and I got married. But in the end having the same name as DD was more important to me, now I'm so glad I did change it
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19-05-2012 14:53 #41Senior Member
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19-05-2012 15:08 #42
19-05-2012 15:15 #43
No I wouldn't.
I got married, changed my name to his. We divorced 2 years ago. I am re partnered, we aren't going to get married (neither of us wants to).
I mentioned to my children about changing my name back to my maiden name and my oldest burst into tears. So it is on hold for a while, until she is comfortable about it (she is nearly 8).
I want to change it because people sometimes call me Mrs ***** and to me that is not me, it is my ex MIL and I have HUGE issues with her.
I am not sure how you even go back to your maiden name. Any tips??
19-05-2012 15:19 #44
If I were to marry yes is take his name unless he'd ralf mine, but either way I'd always want to be the same ad my kids.
19-05-2012 15:46 #45
I respect my partner no more if I take his surname than if I don't.
I respect myself as an individual with my own surname though... my identity needn't change when I get married. I've been XYZ for 26 years... why would I change it just because I got married?
The "kid's surname" thing doesn't matter to me either, as every person living in this house has a different surname at the moment anyway. If I changed my surname to DP's, if we had kids together with that surname too, the only person living here with a different surname would be DD. I don't like that idea.
19-05-2012 15:47 #46
19-05-2012 15:52 #47
19-05-2012 15:54 #48
I only got married 3.5years ago but I seem to remember being told that once you get married, you can legally go by either your maiden name or your husbands name or both if you like.
19-05-2012 16:02 #49
19-05-2012 16:05 #50
It's also things like when you cut your wedding cake, the bride is meant to hold the knife with her new husband's hand on top of hers to 'guide her hand' as he will 'guide' her through all her decisions and actions in her new role as his wife.
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