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    Default Insensitive Men!

    Need to vent as I can't get cranky at my OH till he gets home. I am 15 weeks pregnant and his two boys from a previous relationship are coming to visit this weekend (he is on his way home from collecting them now). We were planning on telling them this weekend about the baby. I texted him to find out what was happening with dinner and whatnot only to find out that he told the boys about the baby 5 mins before he called me! He told them without me! I am so upset! This is my first baby and I struggle to feel like a part of thier little family at the best of times and now he pulls this! Way to shove me right aside!
    I told him that I wished he had waited and he just laughed and said "I couldnt but its all good". He just doesnt get it. This could have been such a bonding family moment and he just stole it from me.

    I am keeping in mind the hormones and part of me is wondering whether I am overreacting but I feel sad now. This meant alot to me and he doesnt even get why I would be less than thrilled about it.

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    Had you previously discussed telling them together??
    If so, well....yeah, I would be absolutely shattered to be honest. Your first baby is such a big deal and being a step mum is....um....hard (another word springs to mind and it looks like this ******).
    I'd be having a pretty serious chat about your feelings and how much you want to bond over this new baby with them.
    Good Luck.

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    Everytime we discussed telling them it was always 'we' never, 'you' or 'i'. I am over having to spell out the obvious for people who dont take the time to think. I am defiantely going to talk to him.

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    Do try to keep in mind that the man was soooooo excited about your pregnancy and soooooo thrilled about having a child with you that he couldn't keep it from his kids for even a few minutes. I struggle keeping my kids Christmas presents from them let alone a baby!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tildy View Post
    Everytime we discussed telling them it was always 'we' never, 'you' or 'i'. I am over having to spell out the obvious for people who dont take the time to think. I am defiantely going to talk to him.
    Lol he's male, sometimes you do need to spell it out for them
    No offense GFP!

    Sorry he spoiled your news, I can understand why you would be upset.

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    I do get that, but the thing is, he has been keeping it from the boys for 12 weeks so far so what is another couple of hours? Also. I have mentioned repeatedly how much I am dying to tell the boys. This was my news too, and now the moment is gone. Thier lovely little club of 3 remains and once again I am left on the outer. This is not a new feeling, I just didnt think he would be so selfish as to take this from me as well.


 

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