My husband and I have recently separated. We have no hard feelings against each other and still communicate daily as we are still living together until the end of next week.
Our kids are our #1 priority.
I was just having a look online at the family relationships website and came across the Parenting Plan.
Does anyone have one of these? Do you find both of you stick to it?
I would like something in writing in regards to vists etc.
Any help would be appreciated.
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16-05-2012 11:21 #1
16-05-2012 11:29 #2
Ex and I have one for DS. For the most part the plan is followed.
We got one as we were not amicable at all, still arent so that is why we went through relationships australia. It is a good way to get your expectations out there.
If you guys are on good terms you could probably just do it yourself, decide how often each will have them, how much notice if you need to change etc.
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16-05-2012 11:44 #3
We attempted to go thru relationships australia but ds's mother wouldn't comply.
So we had to go thru solicitors, but apparently even those terms are too hard to stick too and actually caring for ur child is too hard in her books (and still she won't hand him over, only wants ds so she has that one this dh wants -she still loves him and uses ds to see dh)
Basically, unless both parties actually have the best interest of the child it won't work.
A slack parent will never change.
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16-05-2012 12:59 #4
We had one but BF did not follow it so we went to court for orders.
Parenting plans are great for parents that get along, if not make them into a consent order so its court policed.
16-05-2012 13:32 #5
Never had one personally. Saw it as a waste of time when the parenting plan is not enforceable. If you are on good terms then it may work for you. If there is any chance of things going badly then I would make any parenting plan you come up with into Consent Orders, that way you're both covered. We bypassed parent plans and went straight to Consent Orders.
16-05-2012 15:00 #6
They're not legally binding so if your ex changes his mind it doesn't stick... in saying that if one does work for a while & then goes pear shape the courts will consider what was in it. Best case scenario is if you are amicable enough to agree on one register it as a consent order with the courts.
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16-05-2012 15:53 #7
We never bothered with a parenting plan but went straight to consent orders. While they are not legally enforcable, they are better than nothing and it is a good idea to sit down and nut out what you both want and expect from each other in regards to parenting. Its helpful to have a guideline to refer to when things get confusing...and they will from time to time.
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