if the problem is how they get to and from the game and not going to the game itself, could they go via public transport? that is if you arnt anxious with public transport
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14-05-2012 21:28 #11
14-05-2012 21:30 #12
plus if your son wants to go it will probably upset him and he might see you as what is stopping him being with his dad.
i know it must be hard but i think sometimes you have to do what you may not want to, in the best interests of your son.
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14-05-2012 21:32 #13
Could you perhaps drop him in, then he can stay overnight and then you could pick him up the next day?
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14-05-2012 21:49 #14
My mum has a phobia for being a passenger, and won't let anyone else drive (to the point where she even drove herself an hour to hospital while in labour because she was too scared to let anyone drive!). Unlike you, she hasn't made an effort to address this issue and it has held me and my siblings back from being able to get licences for several years because my dad works away and she wouldn't give us lessons. You don't want to let your fears hold back your son because he will become resentful rather than understanding (we certainly were).
I'd let him go. As others have pointed out his father drives him when he goes to visit him. Just stress the point with him that he is carrying very precious cargo and had better remember it.
14-05-2012 21:54 #15
You sound like me.. I'm a big worry wort when it comes to DS travelling in other people's cars..
When I first read your post, i thought, public transport, or you yourself could "kindly offer" to drop them off and pick them up?
But the more I think about, I really do think that at some stage you have to let go. You can't keep your DS from travelling in a car with him or anyone else for ever.. and you certainly can't avoid freeways all the time (as much as I feel you, like I said, I'm the same and I dread it, too.)
The first time my DS was taken up to the coast for a day out with friends was hell for me.. I had prevented him going so many times, but I finally agreed and, even though I sat home wringing my hands the whole time, I felt better within myself for letting go of my fears.
But it's up to you..
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14-05-2012 21:56 #16
Thanks for all your replies...
Wow... This is hard. I realise now why I don't post much personal stuff online anymore, it's so hard to hear things that you don't agree with! (but honestly thank you all for your replies, I'm just super sensitive!)
I guess the thing is, I actually have to physically "switch off" when DS has gone to see fob. Which has never be regular or all that positive for that matter. The instincts of a mother who is hearing her child sobbing down the phone line 1000's of km's away that he wants to come home are incredibly powerful. I've had to learn to physically turn them off otherwise I wouldn't function while he was away.
I've had no choice in the past to let him go and he has made the decision now that he doesn't want to go back for a while as he gets too homesick.
What I am realising after writing this post that I am feeling resentful and territorial about our life here. He has not been in here in 5 years then expects to waltz over and do something that I would be uncomfortable with ANYone doing let alone someone who I don't know/trust/like all that much. Who has proven time and time again that they are unreliable, full of crap and immature.
I have suggested catching the train the next day to a day game and DS is taking 2 days off school to spend time with him. I just don't think my anxieties and concerns should be ignored just because fob has decided to finally come and see him.
14-05-2012 21:58 #17
then follow your gut
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14-05-2012 22:00 #18
It's hard but they take the kids away for the weekend etc.
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14-05-2012 22:17 #19
14-05-2012 22:24 #20
I am so close with my mum but literally couldn't visit her for over 6 months because I was so bad (she came to our house a lot, 2.5 hour drive).
Hence why I'm not asleep right now
as I'm waiting for DH to the home from the damn footy!!
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