My husband and I aren't really that compatible at all. I think if we'd have both waited we may have found partners who were better suited to us, but we both wanted a family and were sick of waiting, so we settled for eachother. Sounds terrible I know, but we love eachother and have a beautiful little family. We may never have found Mr/Mrs right, and by the time we did it might have been too late for us to have children. No regrets here.
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14-05-2012 12:43 #11
14-05-2012 12:46 #12Senior Member
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I was about to move to USA to marry a guy (not a good guy ..very lucky I didn't do this) ..when stuff happened I ended up just moving states here in oz..I met my man on my birthday a month after I moved....I think it was luck...
14-05-2012 12:53 #13
I believe in the theory that there are people out there that are completely 100% compatible with you but not that there is only THE one person. And just because there are 100% perfect partners out there, doesn't mean every single person will meet that partner. Or even if they do, that they will give that person a chance to reveal themselves as "the one". Too many variables get in the way.
But there are completely lovely partners out there that might be say 80 to 90% Mr or Ms Right and the chances of meeting them are much higher. Many of us, myself included, are with our 80 to 90% Mr/Ms Rights and are happy enough. So if you have your 100% "one", you're really very lucky but you know that don't you?
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14-05-2012 13:28 #14
I don't believe that finding a partner is the only way to live a happy, fulfilling like.
I believe that quite a large majority of humans are actually not suited to being in a long term relationship with one person for the majority of their adult life.
The concept of "marriage" and "life long partnership" developed in a time where it was necessary for a lot of reasons that don't apply any more - property ownership laws, establishing paternity, etc etc
Unfortunately, we are conditioned by society to think that this is the only way to live, when really there are many many other options that might suit you better. We are brought up with fairy tales, romantic comedies, soapies etc which make it seem like "falling in love with the one" is inevitable for everyone, and if you are patient and believe, one day it will happen to you and you will be blissfully happy ever after. Rubbish.
Personally, I do not expect, nor want, to meet someone I am "compatible" with and live with them for the rest of my life. I like having flings, but I get bored easily. The people I get along with best and am "compatible" with are my friends. Long term I do better on my own with lots of friends and family around me.
It has taken me 30 years to realise that just because other people want (or think they want) one person to share their life with, doesn't mean I have to be the same.
14-05-2012 14:04 #15
No. I don't know if I truly believe in "the One" or not. The romantic side of me that bawls like a baby when watching The Notebook or Romeo + Juliet does... but the part of me that scoffs at the idea of a god also scoffs at the idea of "the one" too.
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14-05-2012 14:06 #16
14-05-2012 14:29 #17
I think there is definitely more than one The One lol, I think there are heaps... I think I have come across several in my life but for one reason or another something was wrong with the fit, the timing, circumstances...
The universe has to conspire in your favour and all that, the timing has to be right, you both have to be in the right place... like TeenyT said, there are too many variables.
Its just like there are lots of people out there that you could be friends with, or lots of jobs that you would be happy in, plenty of houses that would be perfect for you to live in...
14-05-2012 14:33 #18
14-05-2012 14:44 #19Senior Member
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No I don't. I think there are people with varying levels of self esteem, confidence, energy levels and general likability . Those with little of the above find it near impossible..
I am in the middle level of all the above and find it impossible to meet ANY single men in my life let alone compatible ones.
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