I get the "he should appreciate me every day" thing, I really do. I wish all people could appreciate their other half every day.
I appreciate my DP daily. I tell him things to let him know that I do daily, too. As he does for me. He makes me feel amazing, every single day.
it's still nice to have that one day, just one day a year... where I am responsible for absolutely nothing.
Not a single meal was cooked by me yesterday. Not a single dish was washed by me yesterday. I got to sleep in for as long as I wanted.
I just love mothers day! It's just not practical for me to never do housework or never cook. We'd be living in filth and never eating!
I do the same for him on father's day. I usually buy him a dvd of some sort so he can lie in bed and just watch tv and be responsible for nothing.
View Poll Results: Is Your Partner Responsible For Your Mothers Day?
- 76. You may not vote on this poll
+ Reply to Thread
Results 71 to 80 of 82
14-05-2012 12:07 #71Senior Member
- Join Date
- Nov 2007
14-05-2012 12:16 #72
Yep, I do think that they should. I'm not with my son's father, but he still bought me presents on behalf of our son, which was nice, just like I do the same for him for fathers day.
14-05-2012 12:17 #73Senior Member
- Join Date
- May 2008
I agree Benji. It's not about presents, it's about the kids and partner showing they appreciate all the work we do as 'mothers'. I also think its really important to the kids to see their dad honour and show appreciation to their mother (his wife), yes every day would be nice but doesn't often happen, it's so special for kids to see their dad take on everything mum usually does so she can relax. My kids would be shattered if he didn't make an effort on mothers day (which has happened!).
This year my husband was supposed to go to a work drinks thingy on sat night, he loves these sorts of things but stayed home instead si he wouldn't be slack and cranky for mothers day. That meant more to me than anything he could've bought.
14-05-2012 12:25 #74Senior Member
- Join Date
- Oct 2009
Why can't we have appreciation and nice treatment every day
a lovely Mother's Day???
I definitely go for both! And don't even get me started on Birthday Week....
14-05-2012 12:26 #75
I think it's the responsibility of the adults in the house to make a choice on which cultural festivals they are going to support as a family, and then celebrate them to show the children why they are celebrating them and how they fit in to the family values.
In our house we choose to celebrate birthdays, Easter, Christmas, Mother's Day, Father's Day... we don't celebrate valentines day or anniversaries except quietly to each other.
So yes, in our house my husband goes to the effort of making Mother's day something that he and the kids make a big deal over... and I go to the effort of making sure I've got a system in place on that day where I have time expressly available to PLAY with my kids
And likewise on Father's day. I put the effort in to make it special for him, and he makes sure that he has something really special planned to do with the kids.
The Following User Says Thank You to OJandMe For This Useful Post:
14-05-2012 12:28 #76Senior Member
- Join Date
- Apr 2012
No. I dont expect DH to make "mother's day" good for me nor does DH expect me to make "valentines day" or "Father's day" good for him! These should be happening EVERYDAY.
Birthdays are special. Go all out.
Wedding Anniversaries are an exception and should be "made good" by both. (DH cooks a special dinner for the two of us, I buy him a small sneaky gift. that's it)
Mother's day is a day we appreciate our mum's and reflect on how much they mean to us. WHAT?! there is ONE DAY a YEAR we are reminded about this?
It's a marketing ploy as is valentines day.
We should be telling our mum's we love them all the time.
14-05-2012 12:57 #77
No, not really.
I think Mother's Day is a bit of a waste of time tbh and am glad that not only did I NOT have to go out of my way to celebrate with Mum or the MIL, I also didn't have a big fuss made over me. I like that kind of fuss for birthdays, but I don't see Mother's Day as that important. A handmade card and some school-made gift from DD is more than enough (and the $2 gift she got from the school MD stall).
14-05-2012 13:04 #78
Well my partner isn't here to appreciate me in person every day of the year so yes I do expect something for mothers day, this year it was a beautiful gift basket because he wasn't here to give me a sleep in or to make me breakfast in bed or any of those things. It's something we are both working on, showing that appreciation and not just on a day to day basis.
Eta I also agree its about appreciating all the mothers I your life, some of us do a dam hard job day in and day out without any support from family with partners who work away or without partners at all. I think it's important to have one day of the year where we are directly acknowledged for that one day of the year where we dont have to do all those mummy jobs we do every other day I agree the appreciation should happen every day but getting a day off from the other little things is another ball game.
Last edited by headoverfeet; 14-05-2012 at 13:09.
The Following User Says Thank You to headoverfeet For This Useful Post:
14-05-2012 13:10 #79
Heres a good description
14-05-2012 14:56 #80
That is priceless thermo, I had a good laugh at that
By WorkingClassMum in forum Social IssuesReplies: 32Last Post: 13-08-2012, 06:54
By Purple Lily in forum General ChatReplies: 26Last Post: 06-07-2012, 21:03
The Fix Program Sydney CBD and BroadwayPregnancy and women's health physio, pregnancy and new mum Pilates classes taught by our physios for you and bub. ...
LATESTToilet training: when is the best time to start?Why it is OK for your child to be differentWhat is a blessing way? How is it different to a baby shower?
POPULARWhen can I start giving chores to my children?New baby nursery checklist – a guide to newborn essentialsWhat to pack for labour and hospital – a checklist
FORUMS - chatting now ...
High Natural Killer Cells #9Reproductive Immunology
Egg Donation in Greece #5Egg Donation
Situations - ok or not ok?General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
Early waking/routine help 17 month oldToddlers (1 year olds)
Seeking advice on more kidsGeneral Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
IVF babies due March/April/May 2017#2pregnancy and babies through IVF