We are going to TTC from October, so we are starting to research now. I have checked entitlements today and by July next year ( if we conceive in October ) i will have 8 weeks holiday pay, plus 14weeks paid maternity leave from work (and 18weeks federal government) so atleast 40weeks off. I can take the holiday and mat leave at part pay (so 62 weeks off Inc federal).
I'm feeling guilty about this ( more about the inconvenience to my employer).
We are hoping for more than one so we will be doing it all over again a year or two after the birth. Is this normal?
+ Reply to Thread
Results 1 to 5 of 5
09-05-2012 18:13 #1
Feeling guilty about taking maternity leave?
09-05-2012 18:25 #2
I felt exactly the same as you! I can't answer if it is normal to feel that way or not as many of my friends didn't have the same experience, but I certainly did.
I manage a team of people that I really care about and I have always been so loyal to my employer and I felt that taking mat leave would cause them a major inconvenience and present me as not dedicated to my role.
...BUT it took me two weeks of waiting for Bubs to arrive where I was still thinking about work and checking in with everyone...then I finally let go after those two weeks. I have been on mat leave now for 4 months and I have not felt guilty or bad at all - there is nothing more important to me right now than caring for my DS - it is the most important job in the world to me and I want to do it the best I can.
Now I have a whole lot of different guilt because I am due to go back to work two or three days a week in a few months time. I can't imagine leaving my baby!
So I'm sure the feeling will pass. You are doing the most important thing you could possibly ever do and your employer will understand! Your feeling of guilt will pass when your bubba arrives and you are entitled to all of that leave - its your right!
Good luck x
09-05-2012 18:33 #3
And yes, it's normal to do it again a couple of years later
09-05-2012 18:42 #4
CamD I know I'm also going to have that struggle, we can't win can we.
KW123, I'm fortunate that my employer allows mat leave again
13-05-2012 09:17 #5
Nah, I feel guilty because I went for an interview recently for a new role, and between finding out I got it and starting I have found Im pregnant so they will have to recruit somebody else in about 6 months. I think all you can do is help your employer as much as possible by letting them know whats going on and if possible helping other staff know what you do so they can cover you. Good luck TTC, and just think any employee could leave for any reason, and you will come back so dont feel guilty!
By hoping28 in forum Maternity LeaveReplies: 16Last Post: 19-07-2013, 08:58
By LoveHeart in forum Maternity LeaveReplies: 10Last Post: 15-02-2012, 12:08
By Missy2579 in forum Maternity & Parental LeaveReplies: 11Last Post: 31-01-2012, 21:29
Einsteinz MusicFun & interactive music classes! Classes are taught by professional musicians! Children are taught the fundamentals of ...
LATESTToilet training: when is the best time to start?Why it is OK for your child to be differentWhat is a blessing way? How is it different to a baby shower?
POPULARWhen can I start giving chores to my children?New baby nursery checklist – a guide to newborn essentialsWhat to pack for labour and hospital – a checklist
FORUMS - chatting now ...
Early waking/routine help 17 month oldToddlers (1 year olds)
Seeking advice on more kidsGeneral Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
IVF babies due March/April/May 2017#2pregnancy and babies through IVF
Horrible Baby Names #2Choosing Baby Names
High Natural Killer Cells #9Reproductive Immunology
HGC lelvels stressed please helpConception & Fertility General Chat
Happiness thread.General Chat
Egg Donation in Greece #5Egg Donation