For me, I think there is more than one soul mate. And they come in many forms, as partners, friends, family members etc. It is more than compatibility in my eyes, you are drawn to each other in an unexplainable way.
I've had a soul mate, unfortunately he died. But it was something I had never experienced before and never have again, it was more than compatibility and more than simple attraction.
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09-05-2012 09:56 #11
09-05-2012 10:22 #12Senior Member
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I fully believe I have my soul mate, but he is not my husband, he is my best friend. We are very close and have an understanding of one another that I have never experienced with anyone else. We just aren't interested in each other in a sexual way. He and dh get along great and I get on really well with his girlfriend.
09-05-2012 10:33 #13
I believe we all have soulmates but we have many soulmates. They aren't just in the form of romantic lovers. They can be our siblings, friends, family etc.
09-05-2012 10:38 #14
In my life I have met two of my soul mates. Both came into my life in inexplicable and unlikely ways. One is my DH. The other is ... difficult to explain. He is not a partner in a romantic way AT ALL, but he is so much more than a friend.
Arrrgggh. It's so hard to explain. When I met him, he was fundamentally a stranger. But I KNEW him instantly, and he me.
They are like two pieces to the puzzle that I didn't even know were missing until I found them. It makes me wonder how many more pieces there are.
09-05-2012 10:57 #15Senior Member
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I'm going to sound unromantic, but I don't really believe in 'soul mates' as such either.
I believe that you can have an instant and profound attraction to someone, or a feeling that you have known them forever. I understand what Shoopuf is saying, and I have felt that with my DH. But I still don't believe that means someone is your soul mate.
I don't think there is any cosmic plan for us. I don't think the universe says you 'should' be with one person.
I believe you can fall in love. I believe you can instantly connect to someone, and just 'get' each other.
But the concept of 'soul mates' seems to lend itself to a bit of a 'fate' or 'meant to be' type theory, and I don't believe in that.
I've never felt for anyone what I feel for my DH, and I would describe him as my soul mate in THAT sense. But not in a 'one person on this earth you are meant to be with' way.
09-05-2012 11:00 #16
I don't necessarily think there is only 1 soul mate, as someone else said the chances of meeting them with a world as big as it is is impossible. I consider a soul mate someone that is your best match. That you have a special connection you don't have with others. I think maybe you might have that twice or even 3 times in a lifetime.
Honestly, I'm unsure where I stand, that's why I started the thread.
09-05-2012 11:03 #17
I agree with Ana. I've had 2 soul mates so far. One is DP and one is sadly my ex best friend.
We had an incredibly strange relationship that, if we hadn't both been gay, would have likely eventuated into something else. He knew me more than anyone else and we pretty much spent every night together. It was all consuming though, and met a sad end.
I think he was my first love and he definitely broke my heart...
DP is a soul mate in a different way, but a much healthier way than this friend I mention.
I don't know what the connection is though?
09-05-2012 11:15 #18
Hi, soul mates are a group of people who you can choose to come back with in a number of lifetimes, if you choose to believe that is what happens. I have been told I have had over forty lifetimes with my husband, and many other times with my current family members. To me, a "soul mate' doesnt exist, but many soul mates do. I like the thought of always sharing with the same few people, others might not agree with me. The people on your perimiter of your life dont have much influence, but those closest to you probably are part of your group. just my thoughts, Marie.
10-05-2012 00:38 #19
SuperGranny sums up my thoughts on soulmates. I'd also add that I think people are drawn together because they're meant to teach each other things that their souls need to grow and evolve. Sometimes our souls can only really learn these things when a relationship ends.
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