You poor thing *hugs*
If it were me, I'd be printing whatever you have now, you never know when he'll realise what's going on and change his password. I'd also confront him now before it goes any further
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. How horrible
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09-05-2012 15:39 #91Senior Member
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09-05-2012 15:40 #92
09-05-2012 15:43 #93
Here's the thing, I think, about waiting til Sunday for more evidence.
a) It's going to torture you, and he may pick up on that and his guilty conscience might take effect and he'll in turn change password, delete evidence and think all is dandy.
b) What if come Sunday the evidence is even more hurtful?
c) It gives him more time to think of a cover story. It's totally possible in the back of his mind he's worried he'll be found out and the entire time has been thinking of all the 'what ifs'.
You really do need to go at him head on, tell him you aren't happy with something you've discovered about him recently and right now is his chance to come clean - and let him no there's no point in lying as you've got the proof. Coming clean straight up would be a lot easier for you to handle, I know I would, rather than anything else.
Be strong and remember you did nothing wrong, this is all his fault, and its his fault he got caught. You have done nothing wrong and you are owed an explanation. I'm sorry you are going through this and I hope you can get through it with the best possible outcome for you.
09-05-2012 17:00 #94
sunday is mothers day, u cant do that to yourself.
09-05-2012 21:56 #95
You deserve better than this. Don't second guess yourself. You are worth so much more than this. The only one who can stand up and say 'I deserve better, you jack@ss!' is you. Take a deep breath and show yourself some love.
10-05-2012 07:19 #96
Oh no that's awful. I'm so sorry.
I agree with others - you don't need to prove to him he's having an affair. (even if he's not sleeping with her - id personally consider it an affair. It's sexual and it's hidden, sex or not, to me it's an affair)
Confront him when you are ready. When you feel you know what you want to do about it.
10-05-2012 07:42 #97-
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I agree with detach. Don't Be specific about what proof you have. First Of all, if he is unsure what evidence you have he may assume you know it
all and spill the beans. Secondly, I wouldn't want him to know that you've been illegally accessing his Facebook (it will make you look neurotic and weak).
It's no doubt incredibly difficult
And heartbreaking for you. But
try to be the adult and not play games (snoop further in his messages, send his friend messages from a fake account). Playing games will reflect negatively on you and just give the other girl ammo to use. you'll be proud of yourself for rising above them if you don't play games.
10-05-2012 07:45 #98
Please let us know how you go, Bambino.
Thinking of you - I know this must be so hard for you! The same thing happened to my mum and dad (gross!) and they ended up separating for 6 months but they are together and happy now. In their case, it was flirting that went too far but not physical.
Good luck and be strong! I agree there are some decisions you need to make for yourself first and you should know what a deal breaker is for you.
10-05-2012 07:48 #99
10-05-2012 08:00 #100
Hugs ... It's such a horrible feeling to have the person you trust be someone you never thought they'd be.
Take care of yourself x
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