My worst experience was probably when my DD1 was a few weeks old. I struggled to breast feed and suffered severe PND. I was in a mothers room at a shopping centre bottle feeding her and two older mums walked in (by that I mean older then me- I was 18 and they were mid late 30s). The whispered to each other for a while, then one looked at me, frowned and said "don't you know you should breast feed your baby?! Not that you should have a baby anyway". I stopped feeding DD1, packed up my stuff and walked out, left the shopping centre bawling my eyes out.
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04-05-2012 17:48 #11
04-05-2012 17:58 #12
No, not really. Nothing that's left a lasting impression anyway. I think most people can see I have one child, who is mostly well-behaved, who looks well-fed and clothed... so nobody really feels to the need to harass me with their unwanted advice. They do when you have a baby... but as she got older, I don't think anyone cared so much. lol.
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I had a lovely lady tell me how gorgeous my then 14 month old Ds was and how I 'had to go back for another' with how well I did with Ds, all I could.say was you'd have to speak to his father about that ... we split when Ds was 8 months old lol
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04-05-2012 19:37 #14
Probably all the time but it's always friendly harmless advice and far and away I get supportive advice, compliments and praise for DS from total strangers much more often.
04-05-2012 19:52 #15
My DP, who had worked hard in the garden all weekend, asked me if I could buy a long neck of VB (beer) while I raced out to get something to cook for dinner. Looking like a complete dag in old trackies & a too tight top, I went to a local shopping centre in a lower socio-economic area of town (IFYWIM). Not 1, but three people told me I was a bad mum for buying beer while pregnant. One elderly lady offered to pray for me. I felt like standing on the seat and informing all the busybodies I was buying this for my husband!!! We laughed about it when I got home & I won't buy him beer again while pregnant!
I know people mean well, but honestly, please don't assume the worst, or think I want to hear about the worst case scenario birth your best friend's neighbour's sister-in-law's cousin's ex-wife went through.
05-05-2012 07:35 #16
When DS was about 12 months old and learning to walk he had a nasty stack and had an awful bruise on his face.
The day after this happened we were in the bank, DS was in his pram and was rocking a mohawk. The busy body in the queue told me if i spent less time on his hair and more time caring for him his bruise wouldnt have happened. So rude!!!!!
05-05-2012 08:13 #17
05-05-2012 08:25 #18
I was changing DS 4mo at the time in the mothers room and a woman was staring at his bottom, it was black and blue, she said loudly 'you'd have to be hitting him with more than a hand to do that sort of damage', everyone stared and looked disgusted with me. I said 'it's a birth mark', she said 'yeah right, those are bruises, he's just a tiny baby!'
I never changed him in a public area again. I realized many others had assumed and said nothing. I'm not one to care about judgement over bottle feeding etc... But having people think I beat my babies is too much.
It's almost vanished completely now and I was relieved DD didn't have it as Mongolian Birthmarks are common in DHs family.
05-05-2012 08:25 #19
All. The. Time.
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05-05-2012 18:51 #20
I was at a physio session for myself when ds was 6 weeks old and for some reason this physiotherapist felt it necessary to ask me all about ds' routine and inform me that I definitely shouldn't be feeding him to sleep. Thanks lady.
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