I had Friday and I also have today and Tuesday off work...
I can go back on Wednesday but I dont know what to tell co-workers and how to face my colleague who is also pregnant and is just a few weeks ahead of mine.
I hope my DP tells all of his family and friends... I SMSed my friends and family.
I just dont wanna talk to real people about it.
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30-04-2012 17:39 #1Senior Member
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How long did you have off work?
30-04-2012 17:59 #2
I had a missed miscarriage 2 weeks before Christmas and had to have a d&c. I had two days off after that, so in total 5 days, I've known ppl to have a lot longer but I felt better to be at work. I text everyone that knew because I didn't want to talk to ppl in person either. Everyone would be different and depends on your job and how understanding your co workers are.
30-04-2012 18:55 #3
I miscarried on good Friday & went back to work on the Wednesday... Hard for me too, my boss was leaving on maternity leave & it's all she talked about... The girl that came back from maternity leave had her baby on the same date as our due date :-( little things were getting to me easy... I too text my friends!
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30-04-2012 19:01 #4
I started to mc in the morning, went to the doctors then continued on my way into work, I had a chem pregnancy though with no d&c required so it was a little different, for me working helped me keep my mind off of things. Hugs to you Hun, go back when you think your ready.
30-04-2012 19:22 #5
Mine happened the week between Christmas and new years so I already had the week off work. Which I needed.
Take as much time as need.
30-04-2012 20:32 #6
I had 8 days off in total. Take as much time off as you need. It's a very emotional thing and not worth going back to work till you are ready.
Take care of yourself xx
30-04-2012 20:58 #7Senior Member
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Sorry about your loss x
I had a week off work.. but I was already on holidays (teacher). I don't think I could have coped going back sooner as I had the 4 days alone and then hubby came home so I had to go through a lot of the strong emotions with him again.
I had only told two people at work. I called them and let them know then asked them not to ask me about it at work unless I started talking about it first. I didn't want to be a crying mess at work.
I had to tell my chiro today (2 weeks since D&C) and he was the last person I had to tell. I just walked right in a said the pregnancy didn't work out, please Don't ask me about it. He was really good actually... which helped.
Look after yourself xx
30-04-2012 21:25 #8
I had one week off from one job and two weeks off from my more emotionally-demanding job.
I actually felt a lot better after going back. I really needed the distraction by the end of the second week.
I think its probably really individual and depends on the role and what you find works best for you in terms of coping. Take care.
01-05-2012 07:05 #9Senior Member
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I had a d&c 2 weeks before I was going on a 3 week holiday so in total i had 5 weeks off. Alot of people told me to go back earlier that it would be harder on me when i got back but honestly for me i needed all that time off, i just wanted to spend as much time with DD as I could and I didn't want to leave her.
01-05-2012 07:38 #10
I had an ectopic 5 days before Christmas and had the methotrexate shot (chemo shot) ended up taking 2 days off then Christmas break. Came back to a manager who treated me very very badly and ended up "changing" my role so it didn't include me. I needed more time off and she wouldn't give it to me, I was wrongfully let go and didn't have the strength to argue so i pushed a lot of emotions down and went into work mode. I am only now taking time out I needed.
Don't let anyone tell you how to recover, take your own time.
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