This is not your problem, it is your husband's problem. You are pushing out his baby, and he is telling his family to back off and respect your space. I just think that anyone who would think it is reasonable to 'tell' someone they are staying with them so soon after having a baby is not the type of person you want to have around at that point.
Bottom line is, you'll be pumped full of hormones, MIL will do something to p!ss you off, you'll either go bananas or burst into hysterical tears and there'll be a fight that will just ruin everything. Not worth it for any party.
And yes, I'm projecting. You may be more able to deal with this than I am, in which case, I'll shut up and just read what you have to say.
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30-04-2012 20:51 #21Senior Member
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01-05-2012 09:20 #22
Also two things - either they are the kind of people who have compassion and understanding and will understand without hesitation that its a special time when you/dh tells them no - OR - they are most definitely not the kind of people you want around with a new baby so they Shouldnt be in your home so soon.
Hopefully they are the first kind
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01-05-2012 10:13 #23Senior Member
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I think your dh needs to speak with them and say you both aren't comfortable with it.
I lived with my in laws after ds was born and I can tell you it was the hardest thing I've had to do! To top it off sil came to stay 1 week after and since it wasn't our house we had no say. Our ds was an extremely hard baby for the first few months and it was hard having other people around all the time.
I think it would be nice to have some company after the 2 month mark but I definitely think you need to be able to be able to be in your house just with bub. If you can't get out of it just make sure you have a place where you can go and be away from everyone. I had a rocking chair in his room and I was breastfeeding so could have lots of time out.
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