My DS is 14mo and I am due with my second baby on May 22.
We currently live in a 2 bedroom unit and our lease is up late June and we are considering moving to a 4 bedroom home for the same cost.
Ekkk! Moving with a toddler! Plus I will be useless after c-section.
Anyway, what I really need to know is how traumatic for DS a move like this would be especially after bring home the newbie.
Part of me feels that as long as there are cuddles and love it doesn't matter where you are, but part part of me feels it would be hard.
Has anyone done this and what was the experience like?
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28-04-2012 10:54 #1Senior Member
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Moving house and new baby - traumatic for toddler?
28-04-2012 11:01 #2-
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We moved many times when DD was a toddler, though we hadn't just had another baby.
We always made sure we did the bulk of the packing when she was in daycare and left her room till the very last so she had a place to go where everything was normal and not stressful.
We made sure her new room was set up and looking all pretty with lots of her favourite things in it for her first time seeing it, we also all sat on her bed for an hour or 2 and read some of her favourite books so she could get used to the room before we allowed her to see the rest of the house....again, just so she knew, no matter how strange and scary everything was, she had her own little safe haven.
It was so long ago I honesty can't remember what else we did...but she handled it all in her stride.
28-04-2012 11:48 #3
I moved house (and interstate) three weeks before my second baby was born. We then moved again six months later. I've actually moved house five times since my DS was born DS doesn't seem adversely affected by the changes...we co-sleep, so he is always right next to me in new places. We gave him a new toy from the new baby, which he was pretty stoked about.
I have read that it's best to discuss the move with your toddler beforehand, explain that all of their toys etc will be coming (and the other members of the household, if they are coming too), walk them through the new house and allow them to help pack and write on the boxes and then unpack. None of this was an option in our situation though, but he seems okay. I also took him to buy something new for our new home - just some herbs from Bunnings which we planted together.
Also keep any routines consistent. Best of luck.
28-04-2012 11:58 #4
We're a very mobile family and have moved regularly since DS was born. He's three now and has lived in three different houses.
It doesn't seem to bother him too much. The furniture in his room is the same and we try to set everything up pretty much the way they were in the old house. He's generally pretty chill about the whole thing lol.
28-04-2012 12:25 #5Senior Member
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My DS was 18 mo old, we moved house, new baby arrived, then changed rooms, then got kicked out of his cot into a big bed. All this happened within 14 days. I don't think he noticed too much. He still had all his toys and I was still there, which is all he wanted. I think kids are far more adaptable than we give them credit for.
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my boy was 14 mnths when DD was born, we moved a month after that, he was fine, we have moved 5-6 times since he was born and he is aok, its a new adventure for him, all the boxes and paper, all very exciting lol
i was also recovering from c section
28-04-2012 12:56 #7
28-04-2012 13:25 #8
we moved 4 times in 12mths when DD1 was a baby/toddler.
each time her room was the last to be packed up but the first to be set up.
ive always set her room up in as similar way as possible so it doesnt look too different for her.
the first few days at a new house we'd make a game of exploring each room and saying things like 'lets find the kitchen, bathroom etc' as a way of showing her around the house and getting familiar with the layout.
28-04-2012 13:34 #9
Another thing I wanted to add is that kids tend to worry if you worry. They might not know why you're worried, but they feel it and react.
If you're just worried about how they feel about a move, the tension level will go up and they'll respond accordingly.
The more you make it exciting and positive for them, the easier it'll be . At least, that's how my son acts with moves .
28-04-2012 16:31 #10
No real advice but I know how you feel. DH, DD and I are about to move next week and I am currently 34 wks UTD. We move Friday and then DH leaves for Sydney for a month while we settle in (he has no choice btw). I'm a little worried that it will all be a bit much for her but this is her 3rd house in as many years so hopefully she handles it well. Good luck x
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