That's just odd to me. I mean how far do we take our privacy? Become hermits because we don't want people to know our business? Weird.
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27-04-2012 14:21 #41
27-04-2012 14:42 #42
There's a difference between sharing happy news and using happy news as gossip. People who aren't good friends often use information as the latter.
I broke off a friendship with DS after a close friend had told the world I was expecting before 12 weeks... And then lied to me about it. The worst was that she used it for the latter: gossip.
I wouldn't have a problem with people discussing my pregnancy when I thought it was the right time (after 13/14 weeks perhaps). I am outraged when it gets out before YOU have the opportunity to share your news WHEN you feel it's safe (usually past 12 weeks)
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27-04-2012 15:10 #43
But if I don't see you often enough nor if we keep in regular contact gen you don't need to know.
Yes I will announce the safe arrival of a new family member. When mum and bub are both safe and well.
27-04-2012 15:42 #44
Deserama it's about protecting the feelings of the expectant mother and what she can cope with in the public domain. Insensitive people like you are a classic example, describing people as 'weird' for wanting to protect themselves in an emotional and uncertain time in their life. You obviously don't get it and don't want to.
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When I told a couple of the mums at school, I absolutely knew it was going to be round the whole school within a day, I was expecting it and actually appreciated it as I didn't have to go round telling everyone...nobody asked if they could pass on the news, I just knew they would as I hadn't specifically told them I was keeping it a secret.
I think once you are over 12 weeks and tell someone, unless you state in no uncertain terms that you do not want anyone else to know, it's going to get round.
The only reason id be ****ed is if I had told a friend in confidence, told them I didnt want anyone else to know, and they went and told someone behind my back.
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27-04-2012 16:31 #47
What are these people wanting to protect themselves from? Like you say that it would be peeps you don't usually speak to...well would it really matter if they know someone's pregnant then? What's going to happen exactly if people know? I don't understand. If these people were nasty people who want to gossip and laugh about you behind your back....then sure...but then I wouldn't have them as friends on any domain let alone fb so moot point. But if it's genuine people who care, who know your business...having a baby....what does it matter? Quite frankly if I was THAT sensitive about my pregnancies I wouldn't have told ANYONE just in case someone let it slip accidently.
But whatever, I am one of those who keep my mouth shut out of respect for people, whether I understand or not so no one has ever had to worry about me blabbing their business to anyone. I just find the whole thing really odd... And I'm allowed to feel that way.
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27-04-2012 16:44 #48
Ohhhh I'd be furious. We haven't told ANYONE were TTC IRL and we won't either and I won't tell anyone til post 16wks for my own reasons. It's not about being ashamed, not wanting to tell anyone or being a hermit as some have suggested. It's about telling people you know vs. telling the whole world and then those people using your personal life as fodder because they don't have anything else to talk about (just guessing here) Some people don't want to put it on billboard for whatever reason. Some people want to tell those they KNOW and not bother with the acquaintances or random say hi as you pass by people. Some people want to tell people personally and not have it blown out there by someone who has not right passing on the news as its not theirs to share. Yeah they'll eventually see your pregnant but why should those people feel like they were obligated to be told when they aren't really friends with the couple? More to the point why do some people feel the need to label a person's choice as weird or wrong just because they don't understand it. That's called ignorance.
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27-04-2012 17:59 #50
But meh, if you want to think it's weird or wrong or odd to not wanting everyone knowing about one facet of your life, then coolio. It really shouldn't inspire much thought beyond, oh, she's irked because an apparent close friend couldn't keep her big trap closed, and she needs to work on her grammer or stop hammering the iphone (my excuse is the iphone).
EACH TO THEIR OWN.
I was only venting. And in a nutshell the vent was about a lack of respect.
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