I'm putting this here for the traffic and hoping someone can help me here. I have mentioned this previously in other posts too so hoping people are familiar with my story.
Last year I let my best friend of 15 years move in to help her out. She was a recovering heroin addict and was almost off the program, our deal was for her to move in here away from everyone, she was from the city I live in the burbs, and clean herself up for once in her life and get somewhere.
Come January she decided to get back on it and hooked up with another friends ex. February was the last I saw her. She told me she was going into rehab and left, including leaving all her belongings bar one bag of clothes.
Come the start of march I received threats off her new man against my daughter and I, I then had them break and enter into my house after having the locks changed and our other friend also has been robbed numerous times.
Then they disappeared off the side of the earth again. Upon cleaning out her room I found dirty syringes, numerous police warrants and a bottle of cigarette butts, despite asking her not to smoke in my house as my daughter is asthmatic, I was furious.
Come Monday last week they made contact again, more threats, demanding I return her things. Now I have two problems, one, obviously I do not want them stepping foot on my property and two, she owes me over $2000 for rent, utilities, damages and what was stolen. I have been to the police who are unable to do anything until they become violent, so I have changed my number and arranged for an intervention order which can't take place until may 3rd.
During this time I tried numerous attempts to contact her, via phone (disconnected) via Facebook and also contacted her family, all to no avail.
So I've decided in lieu of what's owed I will be keeping her bedroom set and fridge as payment.
I want them out of my life and I want to move on. I have advised her she will get everything back upon payment of the $2000 but until then I will keep these things instead.
Does anyone have any legal knowledge on this situation? The police have advised me it's a civil issue as the things where abandoned not stolen, however she is claiming she will be charging me with theft if I don't give everything back, which I do find funny cause I can't see many people taking on a case when her story is, 'umm I decided to get back on the smack and abandoned everything and now 2 months later se won't just give it back to me'.
As stated, happy to return it upon payment of monies owed but I doubt that will happen so this is my next option.
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22-04-2012 10:19 #1
Legal advice on abandoned goods and money owed
22-04-2012 10:21 #2
Id check with police or ring a lawyer.
22-04-2012 10:28 #3-
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I'm pretty sure you can't withhold her items from her, and she can have you charged with theft, though giving the circumstances I highly doubt she would approach the police. (My dad was withholding personal items of mine, and I called the police who told me it would be considered theft, but I got it back so didn't need to get the police involved)
Personally, I'd give her her items back, but seek advice from a lawyer WRT getting the money owed to you - the right way. I don't think you have much chance in getting $2000 off of a drug addict, though.
22-04-2012 10:32 #4
22-04-2012 10:33 #5Senior Member
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If she & her bf have threatened your family why on earth would you hold on to her stuff over $2000. I would be giving her things back & moving on with my life grateful they are gone. It's not worth the battle.
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22-04-2012 10:38 #6Senior Member
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I'd forget about the $2000 which you obviously aren't going to get from her and I'd return her things. If your house has been broken into before what's stopping them from doing it again?
22-04-2012 10:44 #7
I agree with pp, if u want them out of your life & to be able to move on, just give her stuff back. Hugs to you cause what a ****ty thing to go thru :0)
22-04-2012 10:46 #8
I dump the stuff on the verge and tell them to collect it before someone else steals it. Forget the $2000 it's not worth it IMO.
22-04-2012 11:03 #9-
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I'd just tell her to come and get it and be done with it.
22-04-2012 11:13 #10
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