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    We do the 1-2-3 approach for our dd shes 3, if I ever get to 3 she goes to the thinking cushion until she feels calm enough to talk about it.

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    I count backwards from 5. DS1 usually drops everything by 1 while screaming "Stop counting, It makes me sad". He has been refusing to a but lately. DS2 is obstinate and nothing seems to work. I'm often in tears because of his behaviour. I'll keep reading for ideas.

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    Our first is still on their way, but I have years of experience with kids from babysitting (12 plus hours a lot of the time, so I had all day with the kids and put them in bed) and also when I looked after a special needs girl on her school bus to and from school.

    I always made sure I would never threaten anything I wasn't going to do, and if I did outline a consequence and the behaviour continued I followed through. I found consistency and honesty helped a lot and after a while just reminding them to behave was enough (if they were really acting out I'd go back to reinforcing consequences).

    My consequences were always pretty mild (toy removal for a set period of time, time outs, no treats ect.) but it always got me good results, as long as it was something they really wanted. I also rewarded good behaviour with praise, an extra treat, putting on a good dvd. Anything to acknowledge that they are trying hard

    I find talking to kids helps so much as well. If they are asking and answering questions then they are learning, which keeps them calmer and makes them more likely to reason out what they are feeling, and what they want

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    I've tried a bunch of things, but currently counting to 3 works well (though DP hates this, and thinks she shouldn't have to be counted to and should just do what she's told immediately... but if it works, who cares?), and so does removing priveledges. Things like no TV, no DS, etc... that all works well.

    She's nearly 7.

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    I use 1 2 3 too but I will say:
    DD stop jumping on your bed.
    DD if you don't stop you will not be going to grandmas today (or I will take 1 toy away or something) I always warn her of her punishment first.
    Okay 1, 2, 3.
    Okay you didn't listen (I remove her from the bed) then I will go into her toy room and take a toy or I'll call grandma and say we won't be going today.
    Then she has to earn her toy back ect.

    It's VERY rare the 1,2, 3 won't work so don't usually have to follow through.

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