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    Default Tubes "clamped" because you simply want no more kids.. Hard to get approved??

    I'm 24 this year and having my 3rd bub in July

    I dont want anymore kids and would like to hang up the pram after this one and move on to foccusing on the 3 I have and my career which Ive started working on/developing at tafe this pregnancy

    I hate ALL the hormonal contraceptions as they all send me loopy! and am allergic to con doms (plus I hate them lol) and I dnt want to rely on a man (sorry to sound slightly feminist here, no offence guys, just like to be in control of my own life )

    its not a big deal, as I'm single right now anyway, and not looking as Im just enjoying the peace and friendship I have with my ex husband atm and dont feel like complicating things by seeking out a partner of anytype, Im really enjoying the freedom of just being myself.. But that doesnt mean I dont want something permanant in place, to have peace of mind that Ill never find myself starting over again on the baby train!

    So Ive decided I want to have my tubes clamped sometime after this bub.. But since looking around and talking to friends have heard it is a very big deal to get approval for this from the medical world??

    So are my reasons enough? Is my age enough? Will they make me wait another 20 years :P What is the deal?

    Would appreciate all replies xx


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    I am 26 & had my tubes clamped 3 months after having DD2 because i was convinced i was done & it was also partially due to medical problems/complicated pregnancies. All my OB did was ask me a million times if i sure & i said yes, yes, yes & i signed a form & that's all there was to it. I think if the medical issues hadn't of come into it, then maybe he wouldn't have agreed to it so easily ? If your 110 % sure & your OB says no (due to your age etc) then get a 2nd, 3rd, 4th opinion.

    Needless to say, i changed my mind ! & i had tubal reversal surgery done when DD2 was 18 months old

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    I have never been through this so am not talking from personal experience. I just wanted to say that you said you are single ATM... Even though you want to hang up the pram (love that by the way) lol, what happens a few years down the track if you meet someone and decide to extend your family with him?
    As I said, not speaking from experence, just purely giving you a senario to think about.
    As above posted said though, you could always get it reversed lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by misspumpkin View Post
    you could always get it reversed lol
    Like that always works lol

    Have you looked at a mirena or non hormonal coil

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    Also .... please note that tubal reversal surgery is NOT covered by medicare etc it is considered 'elective' surgery & success rates vary depending on condition of tubes, how long you've had it done for, age etc & also who does the surgery.

    I had mine done by one of the best in the country & he gave me a 95 % chance of falling pg but said it would take at least 12 months, it took 5
    just something to consider OP

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    Perhaps a Copper IUD would be an option for you? They are non hormonal and last 3-5 years. I'm getting one put in next week as like you I hate hormonal contraceptives and next to getting tubes tied its the only other long term option that suited me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by misspumpkin View Post
    I have never been through this so am not talking from personal experience. I just wanted to say that you said you are single ATM... Even though you want to hang up the pram (love that by the way) lol, what happens a few years down the track if you meet someone and decide to extend your family with him?
    As I said, not speaking from experence, just purely giving you a senario to think about.
    As above posted said though, you could always get it reversed lol
    I can understand this argument.. But that being said..

    I still wouldnt want more kids.. With someone new or my ex. I wouldnt want to extend the family with someone new I love the two almost three I have and just personally am done! lol

    With my first I had a very strong urge to have another, and with my 2nd I had a niggle but decided against it because two was enough, but then had a not so unwelcome surprise

    But this time, I havn't had that at all. I couldn't imagine myself a mum to 4 with any age gap. I just don't, Im surprised to be a mum to three! Not that I have anything against really big families! Its just not for me

    I really do just want to move on from baby stage and planning more family.. I know people think things like I am still young and might change my mind etc, especially if I "met someone" but honestly I am dead set on focussing on the three I will have and I really dont see that changing for anyone. If I met someone and they wanted kids/more kids.. They would have to figure that one out without me, unfortunately..

    I guess I will just have to get as many opinions as it takes.. Thanks for all the lovely replys and Im glad I had things brought up to think about, though I am still 210% certain I dont want anymore

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    Just like you I knew I was done as soon as I was pregnant with no 3. Although I'm a fair bit older than you. Lol. But you just have to see your gyno, sign the consent form and get it done. I did mine on the day I had my CS. It runs a 1 in 30 chance of failure as opposed to waiting six months post birth to get tubes tied. Good luck.

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    A close friend of mine had hers done about 5 years ago so would've been about 24-25. She had 2 kids and was sure that was enough for her. She's had a few unwanted pregnancies and terminated them so not sure if they took this into account when allowing her to do it so young and after only 2 kids.

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    Considering you are single, the safest contraception is condoms. There is non latex condoms available for people who are allergic to them.
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    Pregnancy really is a minor concern compared to the nasties out there. There is no morning after pill for STI's.


 

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