DS is extremley difficult from the minute he opens his eyes, it usually starts with screaming out, then he wont let anyone open his bedroom door to let him out he will just scream and slam it, then we get to breakfast he wants cereal so ill get it out then hes screaming coz he wants toast so ill put the cereal back and make toast then he will scream and carry on coz he doesnt want the toast he wanted the cereal.
He wil scream and sook everytime one of the girls goes near him, scream when they dont give him what he wants, he will scream if they dont give him their food when in fact he has the exact same food in front of him.
He throws himself to the ground and screams for no reason, you cant understand what hes saying because he grunts it at you.
Going out in public is a complete nightmare, he will just throw a tantrum in him stroller, I cant let him out because he will throw himself down in the middle of the street and people trip over him and he will scream about that too so I dont leave the house unless I have no choice but too, i avoid it at all costs, which means i leave the house once a week, it had gotten to the point where shop keepers were commenting that they have never seen him happy, well i barely see it either.
right now he screaming because he asked for vegemite on his toast so thats what he got but now wants sprinkles on it!
Im emotionally exausted beyond belief and here I am pregnant with another baby, wtf am I gonna do.
I dont get a break because my husband is a truck driver always working, i have 1 friend, he wont go to daycare because he wont leave me.
I cant take this anymore I really cant.
Between him doing this all day and my 2 girls constantly fighting becasue they just cannot get along I am ready to curl up in a ball and die!
Please dont tell me its Autism, I have an HFA daughter, this is limited to his behaviour only!! His development and ability to look at people etc, is fine.
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11-04-2012 08:50 #1
Dealing with an extremely difficult 3yr old
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11-04-2012 09:01 #2Senior Member
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You poor thing..I really can't offer advice..no idea what to do..maybe see a ped specialist ..coz sounds like the behaviour is very extreme..
11-04-2012 09:31 #3
I would suggest looking into the failsafe diet. My toddler is very similar and we have noticed a *huge* improvement after cutting out all additives and preservatives (we just do this as opposed to the whole failsafe diet, which cuts out salicylates and amines as well, however we were prepared to do the full diet if need be!).
You mentioned that he eats vegemite - my DS really plays up after eating this and it's not recommended for some children by Sue Dengate (the woman who created Failsafe) as it contains msg and additives.
If you don't see an improvement after dietary changes, then I would recommend going to a paed.
Last edited by Witwicky; 11-04-2012 at 11:38.
11-04-2012 09:36 #4
I will look into the failsafe diet, thanks witwicky
11-04-2012 09:41 #5
my second son was VERY like this until he was about 4 1/2 or 5, and he gradually calmed down.
I hope the diet helps.
11-04-2012 09:42 #6Senior Member
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How is his sleeping? I find tiredness can make my son worse.
I have a spirited 3.5yo, but not to that extent. His extreme behaviour is more in bursts.
You sound like you have a lot on your plate. I know you said he doesn't want to be away from you, but daycare centres often offer kindy type programs for 3yos. Maybe it's worth trying for a couple of days a week.
I find the other thing that helps my son is a good run or swim. Sort of like a dog - he needs to be run it out every day, lol. I have been restricted this year as I've had morning sickness though.
It's hard. Some days you just want to strangle them. I can't believe how wilful kids can be.
11-04-2012 09:44 #7Senior Member
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11-04-2012 09:58 #8
He sleeps well, He has 12-13 hours sleep every single night and will occasionally fall asleep during the day for an hour or so!
We are going to try the failsafe diet I believe it will benifit my 7yr old daughter as well! Ill check out that thread sweetseven
11-04-2012 10:52 #9Caramelo
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I still have no answers for the sleep and ither issues, but i switched her to lactose milk and that helped a heap with her crazyness, she just seemed to settle down.
I then started cooking as much from scratch and that seems to help also.
Its funny how a diet can change a child so drastically
11-04-2012 11:03 #10
I agree with the failsafe diet, or similar. Our DS who's 4 is quite the handful, displays many of the same behaviours you have mentioned. We've restricted his diet and noticed a huge difference in his behaviour. I make most of our snacks, muesli bars, biscuits, muffins. We only offer home made snacks or fruit for snacks, or the occasional additive, preservative, colour free snack from the health food store. Just be aware that some fruits might set him off too, for our DS we noticed strawberries were a trigger (high is salicitates sp?), luckily for us he doesn't like them any more any how so it's no issue.
Good luck, it's a lot to deal with at the best of times
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