I think 16 is good... But I don't believe a 16yr old should be able to have sex with a 30yr old etc. And kids underage are always going to be having sex, they're exposed to adult content earlier and earlier. Ages 14+ I think it COULD be initiated by the child and half consensual depending on the situation.
I think 18 should be the youngest for the partner to be older than 20.
It should depend on the circumstance. Whether or not the individuals were sexually active previously, how mature the individual is and how far apart the years are etc.
For instance I wasn't sexually active till I was 18, all legal age but I was still manipulated into it while drunk and didn't really want or ready for it and regretted it. So it depends on the individual. You could be manipulated at 18 even if it's legal.
+ Reply to Thread
Results 11 to 19 of 19
09-04-2012 20:19 #11
09-04-2012 20:51 #12
It's hard to judge really. I honestly think that it would depend on my individual child at the time. Some 15 year olds are very mature and responsible, and able to make serious decisions. Some 15 year olds are not mature enough to be able to choose what to have for dinner, let alone big life choices.
Personally I'm hoping my kids don't have sex until they're about 40 or 50, maybe 55 but realistically I know it's not going to happen like that. I would consider prosecuting the older person IF the circumstance seemed to warrant it. For example if my daughter/son was pressured into it by the other person, vulnerable aside from the age thing (ie drunk... but why are they drinking if they're underage? My hypothetical teens are getting out of control here!) Maybe I could just lock them in a tower for the next 20-30 years? No drinking, sex or out-of-controllness then! Good plan, me!
09-04-2012 21:54 #13Senior Member
- Join Date
- May 2009
I'm liking 18 rather than 16, but also think there should also be a gray area for people close in age. I think two years difference is not a big enough gray area.
I however think the punishment severely outweighs the crime and would not seek to have someone charged.
As for myself, I was 14½yo and had decided if my 18yo boyfriend asked I would say no. He didn't ask, but nor did he use force. I was naive and didn't object even though it was not what I wanted.
Whilst I am of the opinion that his actions were wrong, I would've been wracked with guilt if he had been subjected to criminal charges, especially if he was forever branded a sexual predator.
It surprised me greatly when my eldest was in her mid teens that she commented how her peers were taking the legal age of consent very seriously. Back in my day, we knew it but were of the attitude that what was between two consenting people didn't involve anyone else. However in our modern era teens (at least those my DD1 was associating with) put a lot of stock on the legal age of consent.
There was however a problem with this concept. Whilst it was working as an adequate deterrent to underage sex, it was acting as tacit encouragement of sex as soon as both parties reached 16yo. She mentioned a couple of couples that had been together for awhile before they were both 16, and it was expected that as soon as the younger reached 16 then they would go for it.
I think for want of setting arbitrary ages, I would go with 18, with a gray area up to 25. Thus a first (or perhaps second) time offender under the age of 25 would be subjected to mandatory counselling instead of criminal charges. (Of course if he/she refused this mandatory counselling then criminal charges would apply.)
Last edited by sweetseven; 09-04-2012 at 22:22.
09-04-2012 22:03 #14Senior Member
- Join Date
- Oct 2007
The age of consent in Victoria used to be just 12. There's a young girl in my family tree that was raped and murdered aged 12, but seeing she was old enough to have consented and seeing her mother was a single mother (widow with several kids) they decided it was just a murder as they couldn't prove rape and what more did you expect from a single mother anyhow... (This story used to really get my Nanna going - I find it blardy awful they never caught the man/men and my Nan says they didn't really try)The age of consent in Victoria is pretty clear (16 to have sex with anyone except a person in a position of authority and then it's 18, or under 16 so long as both parties are within 2 up years if age of each other and def no sex under 12) and whilst I hope any child of mine doesn't have sex at age 12 I think the ages are pretty much within social norms and expectations.
10-04-2012 15:56 #15
10-04-2012 16:00 #16
I'm happy with it being 16, but I believe it should be the same for heterosexual and homosexual sex. In some places, it's 18 if you're a gay male. That's discrimination.
It's also 18 if you're a police officer (as in, your sexual partner must be over 18)
10-04-2012 16:12 #17-
- Join Date
- Jan 2012
10-04-2012 17:23 #18Senior Member
- Join Date
- Sep 2005
I think it should be 18. I lost my virginity at 16 and I think I was too young. I think lots of people loose their virginity way too young.
10-04-2012 18:16 #19
I think 16 is fine. I lost my virginity at 16 and even then I felt like I had waited. But then, I have always been mature for my age. I would be fine with either of my kids becoming sexually active around that age, or being with a 17 year old at 15, or a 15 year old at 17, as long as it is safe and consensual which is what I will teach them.
As for a legal age, I think 15 is reasonable.
By Bubs'n'Roses in forum Pregnancy & Birth General ChatReplies: 15Last Post: 30-05-2012, 12:10
By faroutbrusselsprout in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & ChatReplies: 103Last Post: 21-05-2012, 11:51
By share a book in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & ChatReplies: 22Last Post: 15-03-2012, 11:09
Wendys Music SchoolWendy’s Music School. Experience, Quality and great service! For qualifying students we will get you playing or ...
LATESTToilet training: when is the best time to start?Why it is OK for your child to be differentWhat is a blessing way? How is it different to a baby shower?
POPULARWhen can I start giving chores to my children?New baby nursery checklist – a guide to newborn essentialsWhat to pack for labour and hospital – a checklist
FORUMS - chatting now ...
ConfusedConception & Fertility General Chat
Situations - ok or not ok?General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
Would you delay TTC because first child is starting first year of school.General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
IVF babies due March/April/May 2017#2pregnancy and babies through IVF
What are our chances??pregnancy and babies through IVF
Miracle March TTC and Testing ChatConception & Fertility General Chat