Just really need to speak to other mum's who have aspies, autistic or high functioning kids..
my dd has had problems since she was little, she was always blank expressionless as a baby/toddler, she never used to make eye contact (and still isn't great), we had her hearing tested as he never noticed people coming in the room till we turned her to face them, she used to hand flap really badly, she didn't start talking (she just grunted) till she was around 2.5 (she said mummy for the first time at around 2.5) but she chats away fine now.
at 2.5 the speach therapist said she was possibly autistic as she was showing all the signs but then her speach came on and she doubted this was the case.. they said she was too young to test at that age.
she's 4.5 now and we're still having strange problems with her.. she has obsessions about things like curtains (she freaks out if they blow in the wind) or loud noises (she freaks if she hears one of those blenders in the shopping centers or a lawn mower). I took her back to the pediatrician and they said they would look into it with the other specalists at the health center.
last 4 months she's been having toilet problems (after been fully trained), first it was problems wiping her bum, then she started pooing her pants once or twice a week, then it went to 8 or 10 times a day!! her kindy is so concerned (she doesn't do it as much as kindy just every now or then) but they found her eating her poo and smearing it on the wall and were very concerned. she started weeing and pooing her pants this easter weekend (she's never weed before).
I'm at my wits end.. don't know what to think. I keep looking back at asperger's or high functioning and keep wondering but my pediatrician said it's unusual for those type of children to revert to toilet training problems but I keep reading differently. she has an appointment with the pyschologist but my pediatrican has it in her head (I think) that there is nothing wrong or it's all in my head/I didn't bond with her or something weird but all my family and now even my kindy are concerned..
she rarely shows emotions like sadness or happiness etc.. not like other children.. you could get as mad as you like with her and she won't react like my other children do. she doesn't understand what she's doing I don't think and I've tried all sorts of incentives but nothing works.. she just doesn't either understand or care. she behaves very strangely.. she often touches your face or arms while you're telling her off.. she has a couple of little friends at kindy and kisses their lips or strokes their faces (lots of stroking).. something sensory going on but nobody can help me so far.. so stressed about it.
she also will wander off if not watched.. she gets up to all sorts and I can't tell if she's naughty or what the story is.. but I worry about my exhusband (he's not seeing them much do to his own mental health problems but when that issue gets sorted he will be able to take them on their own). I really don't trust him to keep an eye on her (and if she's pooing and weeing her pants he probably won't take her). I wondered if she was upset not seeing her dad much in the last month or so but she never asks about him and when asked doesn't really say anything.. she doesn't seem to understand any of that.
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09-04-2012 18:03 #1
Asperger's/autistic/high functioning.. possibly? 4 year old - other mum's with same?
09-04-2012 18:47 #2
I would respond to what your mummy intuition is telling you. And if it's telling u there's something not quite right then u need to be strong and let your paed/GP know that u would like to be referred to begin a process of diagnosis for her problems. If it comes back that she is fine then at least u can be happy that u did what u needed to do. And if there is a diagnosis then u can begin to seek the help for your daughter that she needs. I know a few kids with aspergers now and change in their behavior once they received the help they needed was incredible. I hope u find some answers ASAP. X
10-04-2012 07:04 #3
Couldn't read and run but Im short for time atm.... i hope you find some answers, keep asking, searching, seeing new specialists, If you feel something is not quite right then don't give up... My little one has Autism and regardless of if she is or isn't on the Asd spectrum it would still be great to get some help... Feel free to pm me at any time .
10-04-2012 08:26 #4
Hugs to you Hun, I'm sorry that I'm posting in the single parents area but could help not replying, there is a section for kids with special needs and there are lovely parents in there that might be able to help you, I'm not too good on identifying traits in children as most of my career as a carer has been with adults. From what you have written she does sound like she could fall on the spectrum. Maybe some parents in the special needs section could help you some more. Hugs again Hun, I hope you and your daughter can receive some help real soon.
10-04-2012 08:37 #5
10-04-2012 09:13 #6
Sure Hun, go to the Chat to other parents or parents to be section then on to Special interest groups and then you'll see parents of special needs.
I'm so sorry I can't help anymore but the parents in there will be able to point you in the right direction for diagnosis etc or helpful hints etc.
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